Affirmation is something that everyone seeks and needs in their life. For many years, I would seek affirmation in the wrong places and in the wrong things. It took me a long time to realize that I had put my affirmation in things that will fade away. Today I have a new hope and affirmation in something that will never fade, I guess you will just have to read to find out.
1. In Academic Achievements
Growing up my parents always pushed me to get the best grades and awards in school. I thought that achievements less than perfect were not welcomed in my family. I would put my self-worth in my achievements. I tried to seek affirmation in my grades, ability to take tests, and the awards I received. Time after time I would be disappointed because of a test grade, an ACT score, or an award that I did not receive. My self-worth was always up and down
2. In Relationships
Once I am in a relationship I will be content and feel good about myself, that thought was always in the back of my mind. This could be in a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a family relationship. I would always seek attention from guys so I could be affirmed in things I didn’t like about myself. If it was my body, the way I talked, or how funny they thought I was, I was constantly looking for affirmation to know I was good enough. When I would hang out with someone I liked, the way they acted towards me always determined they way I felt about myself. This vicious cycle always led me to disappointment and self-hatred. It would crush my confidence and the affirmation I did receive from guys quickly faded away.
The way I receive affirmation now is in my relationship with Jesus. In spending time with him by praying and studying my Bible I find confidence in myself. I realized that I am made in the image of God and am a daughter of the King. I don’t have to try and seek confidence and affirmation in my relationships or academic achievements. When I am reminded of the love God has for me I have confidence in myself.
Well, I am praying for you that you can have confidence in something that will not reject you or fade away. You are a beautiful human that is capable of many things.
