Recently I reread He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. Honestly this is the third time I've read this book, and I am "changed" every single time. The advice is quick, blunt, and to the point. The main author, Greg, doesn't sugar coat the idea that maybe that cute guy isn't busy, isn't emotionally unavailable, but is simply just not that into you. The book offered many revelations about past flings and even about my most recent relationship of a year. While hindsight is 20/20 I can't help but wonder if i could have saved myself the heart ache if I had just reread this book sooner. So to help myself, and hopefully you as well, I have devised a cheat sheet of quotes from the book. Because sometimes we are just too busy with our lives to sit down and read an entire book that isn't class related. As a New Year's resolution, I will look to my cheat sheet whenever a guy isn't calling, texting etc. I'll save myself a lot of time if I can admit that he's just not that into me. Not wasting your time on a loser who doesn't care, opens you up to someone who will think the world of you.

"If He's Not Asking You Out"

"If you don't think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half."

What if he's not asking you out because you are such good friends? "Guys don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex."

"When men want you, they do the work...when men like women, they ask them out."

"If you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, id you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he's just not that into you."

"We don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic."

"An excuse is a polite rejection."

"Men don't forget how much they like you. So put down the phone."

"You are good enough to be asked out."

Moral of the chapter? If he liked you, he would have asked you out by now. Move on to another guy.

"If He's Not Calling You"

This also goes for texting, because let's face it. No one calls anymore.

"Oh sure they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. Bullshit."

"If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day."

"Because men are cowards and they would rather wait until the end of time than give you bad news."

"Most guys will say what they think you want to hear at the end of a date...rather than nothing at all."

"You know they mean it when they actually do what they said they were going to do."

"You should be dating a man who's at least as good as his word."

"Really busy is another way to say 'just not that into you.'"

"The word 'busy' is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes."

"Men are never too busy to get what they want."

When a guy truly likes you "You'll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn't have...you'll be too busy being adored."

"Meeting someone you like and dating them is supposed to make you feel better, not worse."

The painful truth is "If he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind."

Moral of the chapter? "100% of men polled said they've never been too busy to call a woman they were really into."

"If He's Not Dating You"

The beginning of the relationship: "Dudes love this time because that's when they get to pretend they're not really dating you."

"A man who's really into you id going to want you all to himself."

"Any guy who can wait two weeks to see you, is just not that into you."

"Fear of intimacy is an urban myth."

"No more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared."

"Better than nothing is not good enough for you!"

"'I don't want to be in a serious relationship' truly means 'I don't want to be in a serious relationship with you.'"

"There's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he's your boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him."

Moral of the chapter? If he liked you, you wouldn't have to ask the question "So..what are we?"

Miscellaneous Words of Wisdom from Various Chapters

"Pets are God's way of saying, 'Don't lower the bar because you're lonely.'"

"There is someone out there that does want to have sex with you, hot stuff."

"No answer is your answer."

"Don't give him a chance to reject you again."

"Don't wait around for Mr.Hyde to turn back into Dr. Jekyll."

"A man that's really into you and himself will try to get his act together as fast as he can."

"You already have one asshole. You don't need another one."

"Bad boys are actually bad."

"It doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober."

"100% of the guys polled told us they would have no problem marrying a woman who they were positive was the love of their life."

"If you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting?"

"There's a guy out there who wants to marry you."

"A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves."

"There is no excuse for cheating."

"A cheater only cheats himself, because he doesn't get to be with you."

"There's a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend."

"You are exceptional, but not the exception!!"

"I believe in love the verb, not the noun."

So there you have it; a much shorter version of the book you can refer to at anytime. I love this book and adore the authors for their insights and honesty. I still have a lot to learn and more room to grow. Dating is hard, especially in this time. But if you truly believe that someday it will all work out, and if you can just stop settling for good enough, you'll find that special someone. In the end, don't forget these two things. "Don't waste the pretty" on a loser guy who doesn't care. And someday you will find a great guy because "People are inspired to do remarkable things to find and be with the one they love."