I got engaged, yay. I've been engaged for about 10 months now. I've been asked several different questions so far that have shocked me and surprised me. I never thought I'd be asked these kind of questions before.
Why are you getting engaged so young?
GiphyMy counter question to this question is always, why not? My fiancé is 22, and I'm 21. To me, we are not "too young" to get engaged. We have been in a long term relationship for coming on 5 years now. By now, we know we love each other and want to be with each other. I would not have said yes if I didn't want to be with him for the rest of my life.
Are you going to drop out of college?
GiphyYes, I've actually been asked this question several times. The social norms of the ideal bride to be in, what to me are old fashioned standards, are that a woman shouldn't have as strong as a career as the man she is with. For me, I wouldn't have said yes to this wonderful man, if he wasn't going to support my dreams. So no, I'm not dropping out of college.
Why is your date so far away?
GiphyLets think about this one for a second, we are both in college. Weddings cost money, and sometimes I can barley afford to put gas in my car let alone dish out 10k for catering. So our date was set within our means of being able to afford to get married. So back off.
Will I see an invitation in the mail?
GiphyThe fact that you actually have to ask this question means strictly that you most likely will not be invited. If you are a significant person in our lives, you shouldn't have to ask this question. There has to be a line in which who we are going to invite people because acquaintances are a far stretch from friends and family. We don't want to invite your nosy, self- interested self.
Why post day counts that are still in the triple digits?
GiphyWhy not? It is an exciting time. If I want to post that there are 435 days left until I marry the love of my life then let me be. If you have an honest problem about this, and that I'm in love, then hit the unfriend, and the un-follow. I don't need your negativity. Be a supporter not a hater.
When are you having kids?
GiphyDude, I haven't even officially tied the knot yet. Let alone have finished my college degree. I have not had any thoughts regarding children yet. Yes, I want to eventually have a kid or two. It's not something that I want to no sooner get my wedding dress off, then bam a bun in the oven. I want to live before I have to work around the care and needs of a child.
I'm sure there are more questions to come after these ones. I'm not afraid to let my bridezilla come out if it's needed. This is about the love of my life and I, not about you. I'm not here to please you. The only person I need to please is my fiancé and myself. So respect my wishes as I try to be respectful with your overbearing questions.
