I had my beautiful baby girl when I was 18, I am a young mother. I do not call myself a "teen mom", because I'm not a teen mom I am a YOUNG mother! I know exactly what people are thinking as I walking by them while caring my baby, "man she is way to young to have a baby", or the best one yet "She is too young she doesn't know what to do with a baby". Mind you that I am the oldest grandchild and also have a little brother and worked at a daycare, I believe I may know just a little bit of what I am doing. Age does not define you as a mother! If you're 16-25 you will always be consider too young to have a baby. Does being younger than 25 make is harder to be a mom, yes you face a lot of challenge's especially if you are going to college. Even being 16 and finishing high school will make things a little rough, but that doesn't make them a bad mom. Being young means I get to spend more time with my baby and we get to grow together. Do I believe things would be easier if I hadn't of gotten pregnant well yes, but that doesn't mean that I can't do the things I had planned on doing with my life. I may be starting college a semester later than what I would of liked, but that doesn't mean I cant do it. Age does not define the ability to be a good mother. There are millions of women in this world who are mothers who probably really shouldn't be. AGE is not a factor in who is a good mother and who isn't. Taking care of your babies (no matter your age or where you are at in life) is what makes you a good mother! Putting your babies as you TOP PRIORITY makes you a good mom! People act like being a young mother is the worst thing out there, when in reality "young mothers" probably work harder for what they need or want more than any other person out there, and most of the time they aren't working for what they want or what they need, its for their child! They work hard for what their child wants or needs. So the next time you see a "young mother" remind yourself that just because she is young that doesn't make her a "bad mother." I may of had my baby girl at a young age, but that just means I get to love her longer. Young moms still work, they still go to school, and they are still trying to become who they want to be. Don't judge a mother by her age, because everything happens for a reason.
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Luckily, many colleges offer a number of ways to take part in campus and community life, without forcing you to dedicate all of your time to these organizations. Here are a few ideas!
1. Look into Housing and Dining.
Many first-year students start off college life in residence halls, and the Housing & Dining network throughout campus often provides multiple opportunities for students throughout the year. Many buildings have student community councils that work to create policies and events that make the dorms a more welcoming home for residents. Becoming a community assistant (or the students who work the desks at the front of many halls) is another easy way to have a consistent, well-paying job only minutes away from your room.
If you really enjoyed your housing experience, consider applying to be an RLA, or, if the school offers it, help to teach the first-year community. You'll get the chance to help support new and returning students over the year, and many of these positions also cover major costs like board and meal plans.
2. Pay attention to campus postings.
This advice is more obvious, but it still gets overlooked a fair amount. Even on a busy day, taking the time to stop around campus and look at the flyers advertising clubs and events can draw your attention to something that you never would've noticed otherwise. Students on many campuses also chalk the sidewalk to catch students' attention while they walk to class. Just make sure that the event you're interested in hasn't taken place already!
3. Find common interest groups.
One way to find friends and get involved is to focus on what you're passionate about. Have you always loved to sing? Do you enjoy playing video games? Is photography your favorite past-time? Have you always wanted to join Greek life? Whatever you love devoting your time to, chances are there are organizations around school who are focused on the same thing. Check the student life section of your university's website, or stop by a student organization fair at the beginning of the semester.
4. Join an intramural sports team.
If you're the athletic type, you've probably heard of intramural sports. Often offered through the Rec Center or the residence halls, most colleges often offer various indoor and outdoor sports to take part in throughout the year. Personal favorite? Mini golf.
5. Work on a cause that you care about.
Whether you're passionate about a political group, a social cause, or a religion, working with people who value beliefs similar to yours can be an easy way to meet people, get a better sense of your own identity, and promote causes that are important to you. Look into getting involved with College Democrats, Republicans, or whatever party that you belong to. Find a club that supports social issues, from women's rights to protecting the environment. If you're religious, look into student organizations based on your faith.
6. Join a club related to your major.
Even if you're not entirely sure what you want to do after school, finding a club or organization related to your field of studies can benefit you long after you leave the classroom. From career-related workshops to conferences to professional connections, these groups have a lot to boast.
7. Get an on-campus job.
If you have the time, need to work, or want to save a few extra dollars, finding a job on or near campus is a time-effective way to build up your bank account and gain work experience. Check in your residence hall (see #1), at local businesses and offices, or make an appointment with your school's career center.
8. Volunteer.
When you're caught up in school life, it can be hard to think about the bigger picture. Volunteering your time to people (or animals/an environment) in need puts things in perspective and allows you to feel good while making a positive difference. Check if your college town has a volunteer page, or look up local organizations requesting help.
Best of luck this year! Get out, and get busy.
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