If you're like me, and you're almost too busy to function normally, then you'd most likely agree that being single is much easier than having to worry about someone else. Even if you aren't busy 24/7, it's still okay to be single, and not give an exact reason. While many people my age are in relationships with someone, there are also many others who aren't just because they feel the need to be independent. If you're like me, you probably know these six feelings associated with being single, whether they are good or bad.
Cons:
1. Feeling alone
The word itself can make you feel lonely. Single. That means 'by oneself' or 'only one'. There isn't anything attached to you and that can cause you to feel alone. You are by yourself and you may feel like you need someone there for you, but in the end you realize that you have friends for that reason.
2. Professional third wheel
Whether you've actually been the third wheel in a date or not, you know this feeling. You hang out with your friends, or get suckered into going out with your best friend, and there's nobody else. So it's just you. All by yourself. Awkwardly making small talk or laughing when necessary. You have officially gained the title of being a third wheel, specifically a "professional" third wheel.
3. The questioning
"When are you going to find someone?"
"Are you talking to anyone?"
"What about him/her?"
The questions just keep on coming. Your friends and family bomb you with questions like the ones above, and you want to tell them to just shut up and leave you alone. However you proceed to tell them, "Oh I'm not looking for anyone" or "He/She and I are just friends". The best part is that you answer the questions repeatedly, and people still forget your answer as they continue to ask and ask and ask.
Pros:
1. Freedom
You are free as a bird, and you can do what you please. You have nobody to report to, nobody who checks up on you, but more importantly nobody that you are committed to. You have the freedom to do whatever you want. You have your life to live, and you can do whatever you please.
2. No effort
No commitment means no effort. In a relationship the effort you give for it shouldn't be too hard, however if you don't have any commitments at all, then you don't have to put effort in to trying to being with anyone else. The effort you save from that can then be channeled into something else.
3. Finding yourself
The most rewarding thing about being single, is that you have time to understand who you are. You can explore, and figure out what you want to do with your life, or who you want to be around. By not having someone with you all the time, you can look at your future and decide what you want out of it. You don't have to worry about making plans with anyone else, or figuring out how your life is going to be with someone else.
While being single has its ups and downs, so does being in a relationship. Even though I may sound sort of biased, I feel that it is important for everyone to be single for a little while just to see what its like and to find themselves. If the right person comes along, then go ahead and be with them. I'm just pointing out the good and bad of being single.
