the problem with strict parents | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post

Problems With Strict Parents

Why being too strict on kids is not a good thing

76
Problems With Strict Parents
https://unsplash.com/photos/MCgXu-RyhGQ

Every parent wants the best for their child. They want to make sure that their kids get the best education, childhood experience, friends, extracurricular activities, and anything else that would help their kids grow up healthy. The methods parents use range from letting their children become more independent to completely controlling their lives in every aspect possible. Many parents resort to more stricter methods to prevent their children from going "bad" and rebellious however the extremities of strict parenting can cause to major backfires. Parents that slack off on parenting their child often leads to the lack of love given to the kid which causes the kid to grow distant from his/her family and going down darker paths. Many parents fear this and would assert excessive control over their kids to prevent their child from going down these paths and hope to push them forward to a stagnant, normal life. This would include implementing strict curfew times, limited personal space, permission to leave the house, relationship restrictions, etc. All of these combined would make the parents feel like they're protecting their kids from the harmful things out there, but in reality, they're causing terrible damage to the natural growth of a kid.

Parents become strict because they want to protect their kids and think what they do is the best for them. There's no parent that doesn't love their kid, but when it comes to how to parent their child they become very selfish about they're love and believe their way of loving their child is the best way for the kid to grow up. This often leads to ignorance towards the child's requests, suppression of child's social life, restricting their hobbies and interests, and isolating their kid from the outside world. They believe that all the kid needs is a good education, a good guiding voice, planned healthy lifestyle, and a stable job in the future.

This kind of parenting technique hinders the natural growth a child should have. He/she can't spend the time they wanted with their friends, can't enjoy his/her free time with the people they want, have restricted hobbies and interest, become isolated and depressed from the lack of friends, have no social connections or skills, and fail to become independent because of the excessive guiding coming from his/her parents that don't let the kid make his/her own decisions. This eventually evolves to the kid being reliant on advice and decisions coming from his/her parents rather than from his/her own mind. The child may even become rebellious and angry that the parents are being so controlling of them and would often make extreme decisions just to demonstrate his/her hatred of the control parents put on him/her.

I luckily have parents that are lenient enough to give me the personal space and freedom that I desire while making sure they're strict enough to make me realize what's right and wrong. I believe that letting a child grow and discover on his/her own is the best way a parent could love their kids. Making mistakes and falling down is an essential part of growing up and a lot of the time parents are fearful that their kids can't take the hit and get hurt which leads to being overprotective.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
friends

Here you will find a list of many of the people you will come across in your life, and if you're lucky, you'll be able to give a name to all these characters that you hopefully see day to day. Don't take these friends for granted because they all add a little something to your life, and if you can't name all of them to your personal friends, chances are it might be you...

Keep Reading...Show less
gossip girl

On the Upper East Side, Blair Waldorf is an icon. She's what every girl aspires to be. She's beautiful, confident, and can handle any obstacle that life throws at her. Sure, she may just be a television character. But for me, she's a role model and theres a lot that can be learned from Queen B.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

The Perks of Being a Girl

“I just want you to know that you’re very special… and the only reason I’m telling you is that I don’t know if anyone else ever has.”

1387
girl

As frustrating and annoying as it can be, being a girl is really awesome. We are beautiful inside and out. Not a lot of people may see that, but girls have a ton of amazing qualities.

We have unique flirting skills.

Us girls have a significant way to flirt with other people. Even when we say the most random or awkward things, we have a way of making everything sound cute and planned. It’s just a gift; we’re good like that.

Keep Reading...Show less
gossip girl

Us college students know all about the struggle of spending the day in the library. Whether you are writing a ten-page paper, studying for a biology exam, or struggling through math homework, you somehow find the strength to get to the library to get it all done. Let's just say you have a lot of different thoughts that run through your head during the many hours you spend in the lovely library.

Keep Reading...Show less
female tv characters
We Heart It

Over the past decade, television has undergone a very crucial transition: the incorporation of female lead characters. Since it's a known fact that girls actually do run the world (Beyonce said so herself), it's time for the leading ladies of the small screen to get some credit. Without these characters, women would still be sitting in the background of our favorite shows. These women are not only trailblazers for female empowerment, but role models for women worldwide. With that, here are 15 of the smartest, sassiest ladies gracing our screens that remind us that women do, indeed, rule:

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments