You’ve never known this. The feeling of beauty or radiance, flourishing through your veins and out from your mouth. The hope you have now, when you were just about to throw your hands up and give in to the negative mind set you have quite frequently. You think in a world full of different people, backgrounds, stories, and music taste; there could not possibly be another person on this god forsaken planet that thinks the same self-doubting thoughts as you do. But, that’s where you’re wrong.

As my college experience is now going into the second year, yet another social aspect that is added to my conducted study of self and others is dating. Now, from a girl that really has no experience in this area it could be that I am just bewildered by the sudden interest the opposite sex has taken in me, or the fact that I am finally open to the idea of sharing my time with someone other than my friends, family, and my fours dogs. What’s the catch? I guess letting myself give into the fall. I try and keep myself from seeing the person as perfect or amazing to avoid…I don’t know what really.

What I’m trying to say is that these past few days, I don’t know what I’m looking for yet, and that’s okay! Do I want someone to talk about art, traveling, and music with me? Or do I just want a nice piece of arm candy for a week or so, just to get these feelings of longing out of my system? Should I look from afar through the lenses on my face, or listen to the pure vintage sound I relate to so well, playing in front of me? Either way, I still have more research to do within this case, but for now I will leave with this list of things I have found out so far:

1. Don’t ask for dirt. Get to know them yourself, even if the feed back is negative; you might find something that others have yet to find out. It will be harder to get to know them with all of that dirt piled up in your mind.
2. “Love looks not with eyes, but with the mind.”-William Shakespeare; Shakespeare was right, you might go out with someone that doesn’t look like the “type” you usually go for, but you might have a lot in common with them! And that can be a huge deal breaker with finding out what you actually want.
3. Go with the flow! My friends tell me I read too much into things, and they’re right! Sometimes I can’t stand not knowing the outcome of situations, but that’s one thing you must have while looking or dating is patience.
4. Be yourself, and things will fall into place. And lastly please, for the love of god.
5. Love yourself before anyone can love you.