Please Leave Me Be If You Are Already Taken
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Please Leave Me Be If You Are Already Taken

A one night stand will never be for just one night

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Please Leave Me Be If You Are Already Taken
The Strange Her

Too many times have I heard a guy say to me, "I can be single for tonight." Thanks, but no thanks. That one is a hard pass that comes around too often. Nothing makes me more upset or unattracted to someone than guys taking advantage of the freedom they have in their relationships and destroying it for one night.

I can clearly recall a typical Thursday night that ended up significantly changing my perspectives on how guys in college can take advantage of their relationships. I had gone out with a few of my friends. We stepped into a party, and about twenty minutes later this incredibly attractive guy had come up and introduced himself. I had never met him before, but he was someone that I had an instant attraction to. We found ourselves talking about anything and everything for quite a while until I decided to go and follow him on social media. After I had looked a little only to see a beautiful blonde on his page, I asked who it was. His response was, "My girlfriend." This was after he had his arms around my waist the whole night and gotten my number. It took me asking him who his girlfriend was for him to finally admit that he had one. I decided to leave at that point and we haven't talked since.

The thing that really irked me was the fact that he just decided not to mention that he had someone back home and that he thought it would be OK to leave her out of the equation when talking to me. First of all, it's disrespectful. Have some respect for the girl you chose to become a part of your life, and who let you become a part of hers. It's not easy for girls to let someone walk right into our lives, especially when it's someone we think could have the power to totally destroy us. We're hard headed, but only to protect ourselves from getting hurt.

Second, I was even a bit hurt when I found out he wasn't available. It not only made me irritated, but it also made me incredibly unattracted to him. When he first started conversing with me, I thought that it was too good to be true. Little did I know that my instincts were right. I thought it was just my severe habit of overthinking taking over, but it was really my common sense making an appearance. He made himself seem like he was totally interested in getting to know me, but he was really only interested in getting to know my body through a one night stand. I don't have time to be played or time to waste.

I have always said that if you're OK with hurting your significant other to talk to other people, then you might as well just be single anyway. There are so many people that are absolutely terrified of being alone that they believe cheating is a loophole. They get to keep their significant other for when they get lonely, but they also can keep them in the dark when they want to go have some fun with another person. If you really feel the need to act upon this idea, then maybe you need to work on yourself for a while. It's no fun being the person in the dark.


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