Relationships. As an outsider looking in, it always seems that couples are perfectly happy with each other. They both are laughing and smiling as you watch. But what really happens behind closed doors? Are all relationships as perfect as they seem to be?

"Dont look at him." "Don't wear that." "You look fat in that. Change." "You're prettier with your hair longer." All these words have been said by people that we think love us. I have never been verbally or emotionally abused, but I have seen it. I have seen its effects on people and its outcomes. Some people get out, but many are stuck despite the words the ones they love say to them.

Please, don't let him hurt you.

As a woman, it is hard to realize when to give up on someone you love. Many people think the constant arguing will go away soon enough if "I just listen." The sad truth behind it is that most girls think this is the way they should be treated. But I'm here to tell you otherwise. Understand that you don't have to listen. You are a human being with all the same rights as any other person. Your significant other should never have the authority to tell you what to do. You have the authority over what YOU do, and you must respect that. I know you don't want to listen to anyone because you love them, and you think things will change if you wok on them, but most of the time they won't. Some people are just never taught how to treat a woman, and they think it's OK to control your every move. Don't let that be you. Be strong. Be the person you want to be, and don't let a man define that. I believe in you, and so do many others.

You might think since I've never been in your position that I don't understand. Well I guess that is somewhat true, but the difference is that I can see how it's affecting you. You don't see it, but I do. I can see the pain on your face and the sadness you have deep inside. I can see you crying out for help, but you don't know how to ask for it. You want to believe that you are happy because you do have good days. But you also know that you have way more bad ones. I know you don't want to hear it from anyone, and you think everyone is turning against you, but in reality we just want what's best for you.

I know it's hard to let go of someone you love, but I hope you realize deep down that you are better, and you DO deserve better. You're a beautiful person, you. Go show yourself to the world, and don't let anyone hide you from it.

So please, don't let him hurt you.