Taking chances and actually following through with it can be incredibly scary. We all fear rejection and failure because nothing hurts more than finally putting yourself our there and failing miserably. For me, the unknown is scary. Not knowing where I'll be in the future, who will be by my side, what I'll be doing and so on. There are nights where I can't sleep because my mind is racing with endless thoughts. Sometimes we want to push these thoughts away and just live in the moment, be excited about the unknown but we also can't help but be realistic. At times, it can even be your personality, either you love the unknown and go for it, or you fear and worry about what lies ahead. For me I'm torn between both sides. Part of me doesn't want to plan everything out while the other part does. Finding a balance can be frustrating. These are some things to think about or do that may help when you're caught between planning and living.
As simple as it is, just breathe! When we are stressed or frustrated we forget to breathe, whatever you are struggling with, it will pass and you will be okay. Easier said than done but it will be fine, weeks will pass and you'll forget why you were stressed in the first place.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS. This is the worst thing you can do, just because someone may be achieving all the things you wanted to achieve doesn't mean you are a failure. Your time will come. One of the things to think about and a great quote by Sarah Dessen is, "Life is long. Just because you don't get your chance when you want it or expect it, doesn't mean it won't come. Fate doesn't punch a time clock or consult a schedule."
Set goals for yourself for the year, they can be silly or serious and try to achieve them. You won't know what will happen, things could change once you try to step forward and take the jump. Speaking of taking jumps, Steve Harvey said something in a video awhile ago that has resonated with me and truly puts this idea into perspective. The video is 6 minutes but it's worth it. Very inspirational and true.
Steve Harvey puts all the negative thoughts, worries and fears away, he lets you know it'll be tough (things in life aren't always easy but that's what will make it worth it) but once you use your gift and explore your true ability, you'll soar. Take it day by day and work to better yourself and reach your goals, don't allow anyone to tell you that it's not possible. It's just about getting to that point, the point where you jump, it won't be easy and the unknown is scary but who reads the end of book before beginning the first chapter? Why spoil the surprise.