When you read the word 'imperfections,' you immediately thought of something about yourself that you see as imperfect, didn't you? Don't worry, I did too. So did pretty much everyone else, because that's how society has programmed our minds. It seems to be pretty common to feel bad about yourself especially with all society throws at you. I could go on a long spill about this topic, but that would categorize this as a novel. I'll save us all some time and hit the highlights.
Here we go: as they say, you are your own worst critic. This means you are going to be harder on yourself than someone else would be. Sure, the quote is typically used in situations where you are performing a task– it still goes to show that your imperfections aren't as imperfect as you think.
When I think of imperfections, my mind immediately goes to pretty much all of my physical features. I'd have to say my biggest insecurity/imperfection is my height. To me, my height is ugly. In my eyes, I would be cuter or even more loved if I was shorter. To me, my height is an imperfection of myself. My mind tells me that it is. My mind tells me that others think I look like a giant because of my height since I'm not the same height as them. This is not the truth. I am reminded by friends and family all the time that they love my height. This is always crazy to me because I do not see it that way. I see it as an offset of myself. I've realized the reason I see this as a flaw in myself is because of the ideal standards many love and worship. This brings me to my next point.
All the time, society pressures us to be 'goals.' Sure, it can be good because it is making the people that are deemed 'goals' feel nice and confident, but on the other hand, it is just another thing that piles on top of the mountain high list of things we should strive to look like.
When perfections are being pushed, imperfections are being brought into the spotlight.
I worry for girls and boys growing up today. I worry for people my age. I worry for adults. We are all constantly under pressure to look a certain way or act a certain way. This ultimately shames us for the way we naturally are. It is almost looked down upon to love yourself. Even I catch myself thinking sometimes that it's weird when people feel good about themselves. When I see someone confident in themselves, my immediate thought is, "Oh wow, they are cocky." This pains me to know that it is so frowned upon to love yourself. That being confident in yourself makes you seem "cocky."
Please remember, you are beautiful. Your "imperfections" are perfect. You are worth it. Just because someone else is "goals" or deemed pretty by society does NOT mean you aren't. Someone else's beauty is not the absence of your own. Learn to love yourself. Learn to embrace every quality you have, whether it's on the inside or out. Don't only learn to love yourself, learn to love others. Let other's know how beautiful they are. Remember that beauty is NOT just an outside thing. Beauty comes a lot from the inside.
So do it. Tell yourself how great you are. If you love yourself and accept your qualities (notice I didn't say imperfections), you will see what you once thought was imperfect as a perfection. Tell others what you like about them. You won't get hurt telling someone. You will make them happy: that is more beneficial than putting someone down.
