There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. I can't give you the secret to having one. But I can give my advice as to what makes a good relationship and what I've seen and experienced that works. For me building a "perfect relationship" is relative to the couple. Two people dating who both grew up on a farm will enjoy completely different things then two people who grew up in a big city. Things that I think depend a lot on the couple include the perfect date, preferred form of communication and intimacy. There are a million other things that I could talk about but I think these are fun and important things in relationships.

The fact is for each couple there is a different perfect date. This depends on who you are as an individual and who you guys are as a couple. For some a perfect date might be going to dinner along a gorgeous river then taking a moonlit boat ride while you talk about your hopes a dreams for another couple there perfect date might be a burger lunch then paintballing until you can't see the color of their shirts. It's a journey that the two of you get to take together and your "perfect date" will probably change as you grow and change. Just going on dates whether they cost a lot of money or not a single cent is spent they are a time to just be together as a unit.

Today we have so many different ways to contact people there isn't an excuse not to communicate. Arguments and fights are best handled in person but throughout the day or week figuring out what your guys' best form of communication is will help you stay connected. For my boyfriend and I it's phone calls we suck at texting. For my friend and her girlfriend they love texting and hate being in a phone call. It just depends on you as a couple and what is the least stressful way to stay connected.

A very important part of relationships is intimacy. Now this is a difficult one because the world is full of people who judge others relationship on how they decide to be intimate. Figuring out what is being intimate in your relationship is extremely important. This doesn't have to mean sex. In some cultures just holding hands could be considered a crazy amount of intimacy. You have to define the word for yourself and decide what you are comfortable with and what your significant other is comfortable with.

I am not a love doctor or some kind of relationship expert, I don’t have a perfect relationship but I do have an amazing one and I think it's because we ignore what society and social media tell us are #relationshipgoals and we just do things that we enjoy. If you spend your time trying to have someone else's relationship you'll never get to experience the beauty and uniqueness of your own.