Truth be told, in my head I am a psychologist. In my head I have a lot of answers for a lot of things, and reasons why people react the way they do some times. Depending who you talk to, my guess on how things will work out is either pure luck, or a blessing, usually pure luck. I took one class in high school and I love to think I know even the basics of it. Truth is, I couldn't even write a prologue to anything regarding psychology. Kind of like how it is when people don't have children but go overboard in their thoughts and opinions towards those who do. It can be insulting sometimes, because someone has their whole parenthood planned out, while the rest of sit back and wait for the day it all comes into play.
”My kid will have nothing but healthy meals, no sugar, juice, no television ever, labor will be 16 hours or less, sleep all night long, and they will never talk back ever. I will always put the baby in their crib, after I blissfully rock them to sleep, they won't even realize I put them down! My kid will wear nothing but brand new clothing all the time, you know the GAP model babies? Definitely one of mine, ALL the time!" My views of parenting gave me a whole lot to say without anything real concrete behind it. I could tell you exactly what I would do, and how it work and be done.
Then one day I brought a beautiful baby boy into this world, my life changed, and so did my opinions. Now this is not to tell people who do not have children, not to have their opinions, but it is to say walk before you run. As you can see by my own thoughts from before I became a parent I had it all planned out. Although I held true to a few like the low sugar, and... Oh wait I haven't held true to any of them honestly. I co-slept, I do give my kids diluted juice until they are 6, sugar is limited, very limited.
Majority of people with kids don't look at people without kids and judge them, but they learn early on who they can parent around and who they can't. Who will take a step back, and not try to change our minds like everyone else has already tried to do. Especially not while the kids are right there, nobody wants to be reprimanded in front of their kids, while reprimanding their kids. That's how you lose a friend.
People without kids have opinions on the upcoming generations, while they aren't spending any real time around them. They are taking an entire age group at a time and judging them saying the parents have done it much or to little. Then they have the day that comes where that little bouncing bundle of joy comes into their life, and they settle into a routine, or try to. Then that child gives them the ride of their life, and they finally realize why everyone says it's annoying to listen to ideas from people who don't live the life. It's like when politicians try to talk about how food stamps cover a months worth of food when they have never been on them to begin with. But that alone is another issue to be dealt with.
