Five months ago I lost one of my close friends in an accident and like a lot of people around me I wept while they lowered her into the ground. Now she died in a motorcycle accident and like me she was a kind and forgiving person. She wasn't everyone's favorite person and people made that known. But don't gather around her grave crying acting like you loved her when in reality you couldn't stand her. I am not doing this to be mean but to bring light to the fact that this happens all the time it just didn't happen with my friend and it isn't going to stop with my friend.
In life you get all different kinds of people, you get the ones that you wave to when you see them, your friends that you sit next to in class, and your best friends that you would do anything with. If you are lucky you get a handful of these friends. These friends are always there no matter what, you tell them everything, you give each other advice, hangout, hugs, or just a listening ear when your life is falling to pieces. My friend did all of this and more for everyone she held close, even people who didn't return the feeling. Whenever someone felt down or was going through a rough patch she would be there for them helping them through it. Some people wouldn't be as appreciative they would spread rumors, make up lies, and make fun of her behind her back. She knew they did and kept her head up.
Her death was not the first time that I noticed that people would act one way about people but when they die they are the first person to say oh I miss them so much that they miss them more than their best friend who couldn't even look at a picture without crying weeks after they died. It is unfair and hurtful to the people who truly love and miss the person. it is only rubbing salt in the already bleeding wound that was left when a piece of their world was taken from them. It is not a competition missing someone you love so why do people have to turn it into one? Do people do it because they feel guilty for how they treated the person in their lifetime? No. In my opinion they don't. they do it for their own selfish need to make themselves look better because if they really wanted to or cared they would have done it while the person was alive not after they died.
