Having a boyfriend is having a partner in which you trust, have respect for, and are loyal to. Yes, loyal. During a relationship, trust is gained and each partner should be allowed to do whatever they want, with respect and while being loyal.
Your boyfriend is not your dad, and he cannot tell you that your outfit is too slutty or you are not going to that party.
Chica, you can go to that party. No single person in this thing we called World can tell you what to do, wear, and who to hang out with. It amazes me to see girls asking their boyfriends, "Hey, can I go to this party?" Why are you letting this man have the authority over you? You should not be asking.
As only some know, college parties are filled with people, girls and boys..yes, boys. Yes, there will be boys there, yes, I will say Hi to a boy to be friendly. No, I do not want to do anything with that boy because I have a boyfriend. Simple as that.
If you are in a relationship like mine, your significant other will not be worried about you leaving the house going into a high male-populated setting. Because he trusts you.
This goes both ways. I love my boyfriend and want him to be safe, but at the same time, I do not give him restrictions of where to go, who he can be with, and for how long. Why? It is not because I don't care about him, it is because he is a nineteen-year-old man who can make his own life decisions. I am not his mom, I cannot control him.
I want him to go out and experience life and create fun memories, and no, I am not jealous if he is experiencing these things without me. I trust my boyfriend that he will not cheat on me, and that is that.
One thing that pisses me off the most is when people stereotype college girls who party as sluts. Not every girl who parties are looking for attention or someone to hook up with. There was one incident before I started college that a woman I know said: "Now that she is starting college, I am sure they will break up." C'mon lady, do not worry about my relationship and what goes on.
Why do people have this logic? I can still go out and party with my friends, male or female, and be loyal to my boyfriend. Yes, there are times where relationships do end between two people and the reasons why could be unlimited.
But, that is none of my business.
So to my reader who is wondering the same as I am, do not let those stereotypical a**holes ruin your mood, make you feel insecure, or doubt your relationship. You and your significant other are the only two people who matter, and that is that. So go out, have an awesome time and love your boyfriend, too. You only get one life to live, so be smart.
You will always regret the chances you never take.
