In today’s society, being single is practically an insult. It’s deemed uncomfortable, unfortunate, and downright miserable. According to the plethora of relationally-gifted people in the world, being single is like getting a bad grade on a test. It’s like finding a hair in your food that is definitely not yours and it ruining your entire meal. It’s like walking into class thirty minutes late and realizing you’re not in the right room at all and therefore abandoning the effort and returning to the warmth and protection of your own bed. Today, I wondered why.

Women stay single for multiple reasons, not always because we “can’t score a man.” Sometimes, we’re holding out for someone who meets all the criteria on our checklist. Not because we’re snobby, but rather because we simply will not lower our standards for someone less than what we’re asking for. If you can’t make the team, then you’re going to get cut. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

Sometimes, we are just not into a relationship. A lot of us have too many guy friends that we value and we understand that typically, when a girl gets into a relationship, some way or another, she is expected to cut ties with all the other guys in her life. With that being said, sometimes, we’ve got all these guys around, and we don’t want to settle down with just one. Power by the plenty, am I right?

A lot of the time, however, we women do not stay single because we haven’t met someone “good enough” or because we have too many guys in our life, but because we are just too dang busy! How are we expected to make time for our significant other when we’ve got work, school, sleep, friendships, and thousands of other things to juggle? There is just not enough time to balance it all out!

So to all of the other ladies I know that are basking in the light of singleness: own it! No one has the right to tell you that you aren’t complete until you have a boyfriend! You are more than enough already: single-pringle and not about to mingle. Work it! Who needs boys anyway?