I don't know what is more unpredictable--waking up to an alarm or dating? The first few steps in getting to know someone could be awkward and uncomfortable. Often times, there is a specific obstacle men and women go through, after they first lay their eyes on someone. You may go over all these made up flaws about yourself and ask "am I out of his or her league?" Let's be honest ladies and gentlemen, half of the time people are thinking about themselves. Your flaws are not noticeable, unless you make them.
As Buddha once said, "The mind is everything. What you think, you become." It is too easy to think negatively about yourself when it comes to love. From experience, I can say that all the times I thought about my imperfections, I missed out on my opportunity to show my personality. You may steer towards acting like someone you're not, just to impress them. For example, stalking their Instagram/FaceBook to draw a similar interest. If you're at the point where stalking is necessary to tie a comparison, don't waste your time. You're not out of this man or women's league, you just think you are.
Let's say you build the courage to talk to your crush, but wait, you start to think about your bad qualities, "mayday, mayday". Take a deep breath and think about how you're now one step ahead. The other person will not notice unless you make your "flaws" evident. Recognize that if that person is really worth your time, they will engage in conversation. If it's like talking to a brick wall, just know that they are out of your league because you took the initiative to start a conversation and they failed to recognize that. I religiously say that "there are billions of people, if that one person doesn't work out, on to the next one!".
I was interested in the opinions of my friends, so I asked a handful of people, if they have ever felt like they were out of someone's league? If so, did they act upon it or let their insecurities eat them alive? Some believed that if the person was too attractive, they were more insecure and hesitant in approaching them. However, I had a large group of my friends tell me that they would take the chance,because they believed that they had nothing to lose. If anything it is their loss because they are missing out on great qualities. Love yourself enough to know that you have something great to bring out of the world.
Sometimes the only reason we become aware about our imperfections, is because we believe that this other person is "way too perfect" for us. However this is not true, the person in front of you carries insecurities. You can not interpret who they are based on their physical appearance. No one in this world can match up to perfection, because it does not exist. It may exist on the internet, but reality is that you can't photoshop who you truly are. You have to accept your flaws and know that you are enough for anyone. Stay True to You.
