Throughout my twenty years on this earth, I have learned some very valuable lessons. Yes, I am in college but those lessons did not come from a textbook or a lecture. The majority of the information I have received about life comes from a writer I hold near and dear to my heart, Carrie Bradshaw. A short, four- day Sex and the City marathon helped me to remember the most important thing that Carrie and her three best friends preach. They believe that, perhaps, society has the definition of a “soulmate” completely wrong. Maybe we are looking for our soulmates in all the wrong places.

Charlotte, the hopeless romantic and eternal optimist decided over brunch that she is changing the way their group should view soulmates. “Don't laugh at me”, Charlotte said. “But maybe we could be each others soulmates? And then we could let men be just these great nice guys to have fun with?”

I think it is time for women everywhere to stop looking in every bar and coffee shop for a man to come around and fill their “soulmate” requirement, and instead, look around and realize that they can already check it off their list. Your soulmates are the girls that, no matter what, always drag you to the bathroom when they see you getting a little too close to your ex. They are the girls that you can talk to for hours, or sit on the same couch in complete silence and it not be uncomfortable. They are the people who you watch Grey’s reruns with after class and yell at the tv with you when the couple chooses the wrong place on House Hunters.

My soulmates are not perfect. They march to the beat of their own rhythm and rhyme. They are baristas and Maxinista’s. They know what a crazy life we live. They’ve thrown up in the Carroll Building more times than one person should ever admit. They aren't frat. They are human potatoes. They are silly. And they are the people I was meant to be with. We have boys so we never run out of things to talk about, but we have our girlfriends so we never run out of people to talk to.

In a world where we are defined in the sidebar as “single”, “in a relationship”, or “It’s complicated”, it is time we realized that it is not complicated. We found our life partners long ago in our teammates, sorority sisters, and peers. So, the search is over. The soulmate has been found and it has been right in front of us the whole time.

Your soulmates are the people who love you unconditionally. They support you when you get back with your boyfriend for the 75th time, understand when you are moody and need to be alone, and encourage you when you need it.

And lastly, your soulmates are the one’s who tell you you're a Carrie, even if you're a Miranda sometimes.