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Open Letter To A Woman In An Unfaithful Abusive Relationship

A letter to a woman dealing with abusive and infidelity.

Meghan Johnson
Jan 09, 2017
Francis Marion University
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Open Letter To A Woman In An Unfaithful Abusive Relationship
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Do you let him walk all over you?

Do you let him get away with being unfaithful?

Do you let him hit you?

You are one of many who suffer from domestic abuse. It is okay---I understand.

You’re scared and you don’t know what to do. Well, I’m here to help. You are a strong, beautiful, independent woman. You do not need him. I know it is not an easy thing to go through---I can only imagine. I know you might not have just your relationship to think about, but possibly kids and other family members. If you’re married, you have to worry about lawyers, court, all that. Its easy to just live with it. Accept it. Make excuses and forgive him. However, guess what -- you are better than that.

A man who is unfaithful, whether in a marriage or just a relationship, isn't the right man for you. You deserve someone who treats you like a queen; who sees you and only you. I will admit---some men do change. They see the error of their ways and vow to change. Sometimes they do. However, sometimes they don’t. The repeat offenders are the ones to look out for. Either way, don't let him off easy. Make him realize what he’s done, what he’s lost. Have the self respect to realize when it is a lost cause. Start fresh. Leave.

Now, a man who hits you...

Don’t get me started. Thank God my mother taught me to have a backbone because if a man EVER hit me...he’d NEVER do it again.

Men who use force against their partner, their wife, their girlfriend... are the lowest possible human scum there is. Men are definitely stronger than women, and a man who uses that when he’s mad or doesn't get his way is just awful.

A relationship of any kind is supposed to be built on love, trust, and mutual respect. If anyone does that to you, they do not love you in any way. What trust you have is shattered and there is no respect there whatsoever.

In that case, you need the self respect to realize that you are better than that. Leave.

I know all that is super scary. My worst fear in life is being alone. However, you can do this. You will figure it out. Find a support system (even if it's me...message me on Facebook or something), pray about it, and make a decision that’s best for you and your family.

We, as women, don't need a man to be happy. We don't need to depend on anyone but ourselves.

Be strong. Take that first step. Walk out of that door and out of that abusive relationship.

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