An Open Letter To Ex-Boyfriends,
Despite all the sleepless nights, crying, and screaming T-Swift songs because of you all, we want to say thank you. Well, not really for the sleepless nights because we all could’ve used the beauty sleep. We were looking pretty rough over those couple months...but other than that, thank you.
Thank you for allowing us to experience love. Most people take that gift for granted. We did too because we didn’t realize how fun and exciting falling in love feels at the time until it was taken away from us. We believe everyone should experience it at least once in their lives. Love kind of sucks though because it made us blind to those things our heads were telling us were wrong. It’s quite an evil deceiver. But thank you for allowing us to realize it only wants the best for us. It puts us through highs and lows so that one day it’ll eventually be smooth sailing.
We always think about what we could have done differently: if there was something else we should’ve said during the breakup or pointed out to receive closure, but what’s done is done. Thank you for teaching us how to be strong and confident, even when we didn’t always feel that way with you. Thank you for allowing us to grow closer to our family, especially our mothers. Little did we know before the tough times, our moms are not so different than us. Thank you for allowing us to grow closer to our friends. No matter if it’s the friends we put on the back burner, the friends that stood by us through it all, or your guy friends we became close with when we were dating, we now don’t have enough fingers to count them.
Thank you for the whole new variety of music you opened us up to. We had no idea how many break up songs we would be able to relate to and belt out. Thank you for the memories we remember each time we hear a particular song. Even though it’s hard, for about three minutes we can reminisce on a certain good feeling that comes with it.
Thank you for accepting the hurt we put you through. Thank you for allowing us to learn from you, to learn about ourselves, and what kind of person we want to be with in the future. After all, relationships are simply learning experiences. Teachers realize some assignments they give to students are difficult, but they know it will only make them a stronger student. They learn from practice. Love is the same way: with practice, it gets easier and we are able to point out our mistakes. Even though we won’t give you an A+ on that past assignment, you at least get come credit for trying.
Sincerely,
The girls who are stronger than you thought
