I know you, I am you. I know the feeling of how you lay in bed each night going through everything in your head that you did that day replaying it over and over thinking about everything you should have said in the moment but didn’t, how you’re afraid you made your friend mad because they didn’t respond to your snap, and thinking about how embarrassing it was when you fell down the stairs today.

There was not a single human interaction that you had today that you felt went well. You can’t do anything right no matter how hard you try. Now you are paying for all the mistakes you made, all the people you made mad, said something offensive too or came off as too cocky or too socially awkward because you are sitting at home, alone, with nothing to do.

I’m going to tell you a secrete though, chances are 90% of the people that you think are mad at you, or that they don’t like you because you’re too annoying, boring, or weird don’t feel that way about you. Sure your friend may have said something about how they found your joke offensive, your roommates texted complaining about how you moved their stuff, or some girls you’re trying really hard to be friends with didn’t invite you when they went out together but that doesn’t mean they hate you, that doesn’t mean you’re a screw up, it just shows you that everyone is different and that something you find funny or helpful may not be seen that way to others. That doesn’t mean you’re a screw up, a bad person, or unlikable, it just means you are a people pleaser.

There’s no way that everyone you cross paths with will like you, there are too many people in the world with different preferences and dislikes for you to be everyone’s cup of tea. And that also means that people are going to have different views as you; something you find helpful they may not and that’s okay. Don’t take it to heart too much. As long as you had the best intentions with what you are doing you are a good person and if they don’t see it that way communicate over how to approach the situation next time. Don’t take it to heart though don’t drag it with you for days and let it swirl around and around in your mind. Remember, you did what you did because you wanted to be a good person and as long as the intention is there you are a good person and you are not a screw up.