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An Open Letter To The College Girl Who Has Never Had A Boyfriend

​Dear the college student that has never had a boyfriend,

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An Open Letter To The College Girl Who Has Never Had A Boyfriend
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It's okay. Short and simple, that is really the main point I am trying to get across. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Relationships come for everyone at different times. Some have their first very early, while some very late. Everyone is different.

Speaking from experience as someone who did not have her first serious relationship until very end of her freshman year, I get it. I understand where you are. I know all the thoughts that are going through your head. Hearing all your friends stories about all their past relationships and crazy ex's and never being able to relate, I completely understand. Yes, of course I had talked to guys before, gone out on a few dates, but it is not the same. There is a difference between guys I talked to in the past and actual ex-boyfriends...a big difference. When you have never been in a relationship you might not see those differences, but once that relationship does come along you begin to understand. The growth that happens between you and that guy while you two are talking versus the growth that happens while the two of you are dating have drastic differences.

I was always that girl who just sat around silently while these topics were talked about. Always too embarrassed to admit that I did not relate to the things they were saying, or even could not understand them at all. I always thought it made me seem immature, unattractive, annoying...a whole list of things honestly. I slowly learned though, none of those are true.

Being patient and waiting for the right relationship to come along says measures about an individual. It is hard being around all your friends in high school while they are hopping from boyfriend to boyfriend, and you are always just the one that is alone. I feel like for everyone, the hardest part is different. For me, it was dances. Knowing my friends always had a date, but also always questioning if you would have one yourself. Looking back, it seems so dumb, but at the time it was a big deal. No one wanted to be that one girl out of the group that went to prom alone. I have been there, so I understand.

Girl, I am here to tell you it is totally okay. Two things are okay actually. It is okay to be that college girl who has never had a relationship and it is okay to be upset about it. Relationships come at different times for everyone. Everyone is ready for a relationship at a different time. There really is no reason to rush. Your time will come, and I am sure you will be like me and you will regret ever trying to rush it. When I finally learned to just let it be and finally understood that it will happen when it happens, I became so much happier. I began to focus on other things besides seeking a relationship, and ended up gaining a great relationship in the progress.

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