Dear my sisters,

I am right here with you. Whether you couldn’t rush because of money, grades, you didn’t get a bid, or any other reason, I understand what you’re feeling at the moment. Please know that you are not alone!

I know what it’s like feeling left out. Your friends all have chapter that they complain about, that you wish you could go to. They’re wearing their letters across their chests, while you feel like you have the letters “SAD” written across your forehead. They are running through the halls to each others rooms, seeing if anyone has a pair of white shoes in their size; while you just stare at your pair sitting in your closet that you would’ve worn to initiation, with that white dress you brought with you to college thinking it was worth the space it took up in your itty bitty closet. But it wasn’t.

And just when you think it's only clothes, the date parties and formals are next. You realize you’ll be the friend taking their pictures before they go off with their date to go dance, while you just wish you had that reason to ask the cute boy in your class if they’d like to go with you. A reason to ask him out. But you don’t.

I know what it's like to eat dinner alone, because they are meeting with the older girls in their chapter looking for their big, that you just wish you had. While they complain about never having dinner alone, you just sit there quietly thinking “shut up, no you don’t!” I understand your frustration and understand you’re feeling left out. But it's all going to be ok.

Now that you know you’re not alone, take this time to be productive.

If you couldn’t rush because of grades, focus on those now so you can rush next year.

If you couldn’t rush because of financial struggles, take the extra time you have to get a job. And no, not so you can pay to rush next year, but because it'll help with paying for other things because we all know college isn’t cheap.

And if you couldn’t rush because you didn’t get a bid, know that there is something else for you on campus. Maybe the sorority thing wasn’t for you? You’ll never know till you go out and try other things. And I know you’ve probably heard this from many people, but its true. We're in college to find ourselves, so go find yourself in something you love. Maybe even look into a service sorority/fraternity, who knows! But just get out there and turn the situation upside down- you'll be amazed what you can find and the people you'll meet!

Now go out there and show them what you're not missing!