We’ve all been there at least once. February 14th rolls around and you see all of your friends posting pictures of roses, giant teddy bears and kisses with their boyfriends while you’re binge-watching “Friends” with a never ending supply of bagel bites. Being a single girl on Valentines Day is hard. We all want that special someone to curl up with at the end of the day and be truly happy with, because let’s face it; no one wants to be alone. As if it isn’t hard enough being the single friend, there is an entire 24 hours dedicated to the people who were lucky enough to find someone else.
What makes it even harder is when it’s the first lonely Valentines Day you’ve had in a while. It’s a day where you can’t help but reminisce about the times you spent curled up with your ex, thinking that things would never end. You start to wonder what you could have done to save your relationship, blaming yourself for things that weren’t your fault. It’s almost like going through the breakup all over again. You miss his mom, his sister, his dog, the way he used to sing along to all of your favorite overly girly songs. It becomes so easy to forget all of the things he said and did to break your heart, without any remorse. That’s when you think about calling him, even though you swore to yourself you wouldn’t take his number off of your blocked caller list. You tell yourself maybe it’s been enough time, and he has changed, and you have changed and things will be different this time around if he could just magically become the person you want him to be. Don’t do it.
It’s okay to be alone. Being able to stand on your own is such a huge part of being a woman. As Queen Bey herself once said “Up in the club, we just broke up, doin’ my own little thing”, celebrate yourself and all you have to offer. Don’t turn back to someone who hurt you because you’re too afraid of waiting to find someone better. Ride it out for now and enjoy the time you’re able to spend alone in all gray sweats shamelessly watching Grey’s Anatomy all day without being forced to spoon. Hold your head high, even when you accidentally see the picture of your ex looking at his new girlfriend the way he used to look at you. Someone who actually deserves you will be giving you that look once you stop dwelling on who the wrong guy is looking at. The day will come when you find that right guy who makes all of the others seem like wasted time that happened in another world, and you’ll never have to spend another Valentines Day alone again. Love is out there waiting for everyone in this crazy world we live in, but it’s much harder to find the right one when you’ve chained yourself to the wrong one.
