Every person in the world feels pain. Everyone experiences loss and sadness. No matter the situation, every person has their own way of dealing with their pain. Some people will wear their hurt and make it known that they are hurting through their words, actions and body language. Yet, there are many people that don't need the world to know they are hurting. These people hide all their pain behind the most contagious and universal gesture, a smile.
A person who hides their pain may be seen as weak or reserved, but they are quite the opposite. Those people are humble and strong. They have the mindset that whatever they are going through, they can get through it. They feel they don't want to bother people for sympathy or receive pity but to just figure things out on their own no matter how hard that may be.
The strength that it takes for a person to not break down and cry in the middle of the day when they are hurt is immense. You can be in the middle of class or having lunch with friends and deep down you want to cry and ask for comfort, but you keep yourself composed and keep that half convincing smile on your face. It may be a break up that is bothering you, or family problems or even something as small as a bad grade on a test but it all hurts the same.
You have become an expert at the phrases: "I'm fine." and "Don't worry about me.". You may feel like the world is conspiring against you, like you are all alone. You want to scream out for help but instead you just smile and go along with your day. You know you are strong but don't know how much longer you can keep up your act of being "fine." You may have become an expert at faking it but you will always crack and break down. The wall you have put up eventually crumbles and you let out that first of many tears and finally ask for help.
To the people that do this, know that you are strong, not weak. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Sure, people have hurt you and you are afraid of bothering people but, someone will always help you. The people that help you admit your hurt are the ones who truly love and care about you. Find these people and keep them with you forever. They will help you learn to not be afraid to speak up and admit your grief or pain. Leave that half convincing smile behind you and wear your real smile, it is way more beautiful.
Yes, we all have days where we hate the world and just want to stay curled up and hidden in bed forever, but we can't. We need to face our challenges head on and knock them out of our way. Have a friend who is mad at you? Talk to them. Family problems? Sit down and talk about it and don't be afraid to cry. We all face problems in our lives but we can never feel better until we face them head on with the mindset of knowing you will conquer the world.
Never be afraid to be who you are because nobody can do it better.
