Dear Mistresses,

Why? Please explain to me because I honestly don’t understand. I try to make excuses for you; I just can’t wrap my mind around why? Why can’t you just get your own man? Why do you have to go around breaking hearts? If your feeling lonely find a man who is single. Why shove a girl through the whole process of thinking she isn’t good enough? She is.You’re just too slimy and disgusting to face the facts. If there is another girl in the picture: let him go. It really isn’t that complicated. If you don’t care that he isn't faithful to one girl, you shouldn't have a problem breaking up with him. Let him go.

Do we not have standards anymore? Do we women not respect ourselves enough to demand a man who is faithful? I just don't understand it. What woman grows up dreaming of being one of a man's many options? You could be her. The man you have remained faithful to, chose someone else over you. You could be crying on the bathroom floor. You could find her lipstick stain on his white shirt, wondering where you went wrong. Home-wrecker.

Do you think you'll think you'll get away with it? Do you honestly believe she won't find out? Is it worth the risk? You probably weren't thinking at all. You thought about how nice it felt to have a man who was interested in you. You thought about how exciting it was to meet with him in secret, like teenagers. You took advantage of love. They say love is pain, but really love is beautiful you were the one to make love painful.

Love should be flowers on a Sunday morning. Love should be valuing your partner over everything (like his wife at home). Love should be faithful actions instead of meaningless words. As H. Jackson Brown Jr. said, "Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own," (like wrecking his relationship for your Friday night fling). Love is loyalty through good and bad times.

Love isn't sneaking around. Love isn't lying. Love isn't disloyal. Love doesn't give you the right to break someone into little pieces to step on and crush with your selfish ego. Love isn't perfect, but it does accept a person's imperfections and remains faithful.

Don't be a home-wrecker. Don't take advantage of love; side chicks are never first. Don't make love painful; let lovers marvel at it's beauty. The bottom line is: Be a good person. Do what is right. I know you have a brain. Use it.