Dear Independent Girl,

I know you think you have it all figured out, all while thinking you haven't figured out a thing.

I know there are nights when you are out with your girls, and you think you'll never need somebody to love you. But, I also know there are nights, after all your friends go home, when you start to wonder if you'll find someone that loves you. Part of you wants to just meet the right one immediately and not have to waste time with the bad ones. But, let me tell you those bad ones teach you what to look for.

Find someone who understands you are capable of doing things on your own, that you can care for yourself, and that sometimes, you really just need space. But don't settle for someone who you know isn't meant for you. Find someone to share and make memories with. We know you cannot handle someone clingy or too dependent, when you are the opposite. And we know you need someone who craves adventure like you do. We know sometimes it can be hard to balance these things. And if it doesn't work out, take something away from it. Learn from it.

But let me tell you this, be selfish. Everyone envies a young, independent person that can make decisions without having to think. You can go wherever you want, do whatever makes you happy and discover who you are. You have no limitations. Now is the time to be selfish. You don't have to think about how your decisions will affect your husband or your children. This is the time for you to start your bucket list. Stay out 'til 5 a.m. Spike your coffee before work. Dance around your house with no pants on. Don't settle for friends who don't make you feel invincible. Don't live the same routine every single day. Go out of your comfort zone.

Let me tell you this too, be strong. When you are self-reliant, depending on others to get you through hard times does not always cut it. When you feel like nothing is going right, walk away from it all, take a break, clear your mind. Reconnect or disconnect. Turn off the constant social media, looking at others' accomplishments can make you feel small. Mark your progress. Set goals for yourself. Reconnect with old friends who can offer you a new perspective.

Independent girl, you are one of the ones they refer to when they say, "young people can change the world."

Be a leader, and don't sit on the sidelines.

Let me tell you one last important thing, get inspired. Do good with your independence, find what makes you happy, and help others. Have you always wanted to start a blog? Do it. Want to travel to Africa? Do it. You are the independent girl. Make use of your independence.

Get inspired.