To The Girl Who Doesn’t Think She’s Enough,

First and foremost, you are enough. Never let anyone influence your opinion of yourself or tell you that you do not deserve every good thing that comes your way. There will always be people in your life who will try to tear you down, and the most important thing is to not allow these people to get to you. These could be your friends, boyfriends, or anyone.

Never ever, EVER, let a boy make you feel like you are not enough. Any boy who does not treat you like the princess that you are does not deserve the opportunity to make you feel this way. Any boy who does not think that you are the most perfect girl in the world, at least to him, does not deserve to be with you.

Of course, guys are not the only reason that girls do not feel as if they are enough. We have all grown up conditioned to believe that to be enough you must be pretty and intelligent and live up to society’s standards of beauty. You must be skinny, but not too skinny. You must be smart, but not so smart as to outshine your male counterparts. You must wear feminine clothing, and it must be form-fitting and show off a lot of skin, but you careful- if you show too much skin you might be called a slut. Society is filled with an abundance of double-standards for women, as if many of us do not already struggle with self-esteem issues already.

These self-image issues stem from society and social media and how we have been socially conditioned; however, they continue to become worse and we begin to compare ourselves to the people around us in everyday life. I hate walking down the sidewalk, or being at some sort of social event and seeing a girl who I believe is much more physically attractive than myself, and feeling so inferior and so insecure about myself just because there is girl that I perceive to be more attractive looking than myself.

It is sad that these kinds of things happen so often to young women, and that this can cause so many more issues, especially mentally. These issues can include eating disorders or perhaps depression and anxiety as well.

So, if you are one of these girls does not feel as if they are enough and does not feel as if they live up to society’s standards- I know how you feel. I have felt that way, too. Sometimes I still feel that way. But what I can tell you is that when you begin to realize that this is happening and constantly remind yourself that you are indeed enough, and when you start to believe that you truly are enough, I assure you that you will feel so much happier and you will appreciate everything in your life so much more. So know that you are not alone and know that things get better. Love yourself.

Sincerely,

A Girl Who Finally Knows She Is Enough