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An Open Letter To Everyone In The Friendzone

Words of advice from someone who's been there

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An Open Letter To Everyone In The Friendzone

Dear everyone in the friendzone,

I want to start off by saying you are not alone. I have been friendzoned countless times. I have yet to see the light at the end of this 'friendship' tunnel. All that I've gotten out of this is that I'm an okay enough person for people to want to be my friend but not good enough for someone to want to be in an actual relationship with me. I know you feel the same way. We shouldn't let these humans that take advantage of our loyalty tear us down like this.

Being put in the friendzone really takes a toll on your confidence. You are constantly looking at yourself thinking why you are not good enough. Newsflash: you are good enough, that person you are infatuated with just isn't smart enough to realize it. There is also that slight possibility that your friend thinks that they are not good enough for you. That rarely is the case for me but I'm sure it is for most of you. Just so you know, you are perfect and someone out there is going to realize that and your 'friend' is going to be left in the dust wondering why they didn't come to figuring it out sooner.

If you are someone who has been in the friend zone of one person for a while, you've probably been through everything. They've had girlfriends who you pretend to like but deep down every single thing they do annoys you. You've seen your 'friend' through a breakup and they were upset and you comforted them, holding back saying how much they deserve someone who really loves them like you do. You can't stand to see them with another person but you also can't stand to see them upset.

Stop doing everything they ask of you. You are not in a relationship so stop trying to kiss their ass with your loyalty. If they want McDonalds they can drive themselves there, you don't need to do it for them. If they want to hang out and do something you don't want to do, then don't. You don't owe them anything. If anything, they owe you for sticking you in the friendzone in the first place.

I'm going to leave you with some advice, my friendzoned peeps: get out whenever you get the chance. If some other person is showing interest in you and it's not your 'friend', go for it. Don't worry about staying loyal to feelings you have for someone who hasn't expressed feelings for you in return. You are so much better than that. You deserve everything that your 'friend' can't give to you. Stop thinking "Why am I not good enough?" and start thinking "I'm too good for them anyways."

Love,

Your fellow friendzoned human.

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