Whenever you go to college, it is all about parties, sororities and fraternities -- not completing assignments on time. But when you are that friend who doesn’t party or even stay out later, you learn a lot. Sometimes being able to be in bed by a decent time every night could help with school work. I have noticed with myself my ability to understand how to manage my time with friends and school work comes from not partying. Being able to spend some time alone before you go to bed to think over the day can also help with your school work. I’m not saying partying in college is completely terrible, I just don’t put myself in that scene. Some people say they have met their best friends at bars/clubs, but I have those best friends already without putting myself in places like that.

Putting yourself in situations where you don’t know if you can handle the outcome or not is something that is learned in college. Figuring out who you are as a person and not changing for your friends might be a hard thing to do in college but its an overall improvement. I have friends who like going out and partying, then there is me, the person who doesn’t want to hold her friends back from having fun. I stand strong on my views of partying with alcohol and crazy dancing. My friends know where I stand on partying and drinking and they don’t pressure me into doing those things. They also know that I’m always there for them if they need me after one crazy night at the bar. Being that friend who has a good mind set during their time of need could mean the world to them.

You can be a party girl with your girlfriends in your dorm’s lobby or your dorm room listening to their crazy night. Showing them when you stay up past midnight, you get loopy and start giggling like crazy and saying stupid things. That is where I have made most of my memories: Staying up with my best friends hearing their stories and talking to them about whatever. Being that person they can come to with anything is awesome.

Don’t feel left out when you make the decision to not party in college. College is not just about the partying, it is about making those lasting relationships, making good grades in your classes, graduating and starting your career off in a good way. Being able to depend on yourself and realizing that you can be independent and prove to your friends at school and back home that you are doing ALL RIGHT! That also can help in the future after you graduate; it shows your future employer that you completed your degree for a good reason of securing a great career after college. Being the non-party college girl will also show your future husband that you are a responsible, independent, still crazy and fun girl but just not in the bar.