We have all known that one person. The person you know who seems so awesome, like such a great friend, but at some point you find out that they really are not all of the amazing qualities and the greatest friend. My mistake was making them my best friend, only to find out that when the relationship crashed and burned, I did not mean as much to them as they did to me. Now this was a while ago, but it is something I still think about from time to time and it still really gets to me, so I decided to write this form of “letter” to this person, in hopes that it may help out someone else who is living through a similar situation.

To my fake friend,

I would like to let you know that you do not define me. Your fake caring, just so you can later ask for a favor, does not make me stupid to believe. It may make me feel stupid now and then, but I am not a stupid person. I am a trusting person. I trust people until they prove me wrong. This may be naive, or childish, but it is the way I prefer to live.
I prefer to live my life accepting people and giving them a chance, instead of being cynical and never opening up until I reach a certain point with someone. This will not change, and you did not change that. You do not get the benefit of knowing you ruined how I care for my friends. You don’t, simply because you didn’t.

I still love my friends with all of my heart. I still trust them, and yes sometimes my trust waivers when something seems a little off, because I do not want to have to go through the same situation you put me in with someone else. But my trust problems do not change how I am, and I hope you know that.

I would also like you to know that I have learned what being an honest friend means. An honest friend listens to you when you need it, they do not cut you off. They will drop anything and everything for you, they don’t simply tell you that what you are saying is unimportant right now. They stick up for you, always. An honest friend is there from the time you need them and will even be annoying when you don’t, just to make sure you’re okay.

You were not any of these things.

You were selfish, self absorbed, hypocritical, and most importantly, a liar. I do not do well with liars. I do not do well with users, who use people for their benefit until that purpose is gone, only talking to you when they need something, or when they have bad news.

I have had a number of crappy friends in my lifetime, but let me just say you were the worst. And if that is something to be proud of, then go ahead. If someone else’s misery means your happiness, then so be it, I will just wait for the day that everyone else realizes it. I also don’t do well with social climbers, and I truly believe that is what you are. People who use others so they don’t have to be lonely while they climb the social ladder, are some of the truest liars I can think of. And I am not to be used for that, and no one else is either.

My point here essentially, is just to tell you that no matter what you did to me, I am not at all going to change because of it. You may have broken me down to my core, and I could do nothing but hide it, but you did not ruin me. I learned a lot from you, including that I can take a lot more crap than I used to know. I deserved better than that, but that’s a mute note.

I am better than that.