Dear Future Children,

First, I want to tell you that you are so special to me, so beautiful, so perfect, and nothing and no one should ever make you feel differently. There are going to be a lot of people in this world who will make you question your value, and try to play with your confidence. I just want you to know that another person’s opinion does not define who you are. You are beautiful inside and out, and I never want you to think twice about that. Always be true to who you are.

Additionally, just as someone else’s opinion should not define you, your opinion should not define them. Always remember that there is more to a person than what you are told, what you see, and what you think you know. Be gentle with others, and they will almost always be gentle with you.

I also think it is important to warn you that not everybody in this world is as nice of a person as I know you will become. There is one piece of advice that will make handling these types of people much easier for you: Being nice to nice people is easy, but if you can find the strength and gentleness inside of you to be nice to insensitive people then your heart will do great things in this world.

Another thing, as much as it breaks my heart to think that somebody else will break yours, heartbreak is inevitable. You are going to hear this a million times from many different people, but you have to understand that time is essential in healing a broken heart. You will grow strong, you will learn how to manage your emotions, and you will be okay. Do not put a wall up; let yourself experience what you are feeling, be willing to allow yourself to learn how to cope with it, and I promise you that in the end everything will work out.

Always remember that nobody in this whole world is perfect. I am not always making the best decisions, you will not always be making the best decisions, and, without a doubt, everyone around you will not be either. But, it is human nature to mess up sometimes, so learn to forgive others and yourself and move on. However, when you form relationships with people who are continuously making mistakes, decide whether or not it is a healthy choice for you to carry on the relationship. When it is you who is making mistakes, remember that it is important to take the time to think about what was done, admit to your faults, and learn from them.

Never forget that I was once your age. I was five once, playing imaginary games. I was twelve once, hoping my friends did not see my parents dropping me off at the school dance. I was seventeen once, facing many emotional rollercoasters and confusing teenage moments. I have experienced a lot of things before I was ready to have you, so ask me anything. I may not have the most excellent advice in the world, but I am here for you always and I have doubtlessly felt what you are feeling.

Lastly, the most important of all, appreciate everything that life gives you. Learn to cherish every moment, whether it may be simply picking the most perfect flower from the ground or watching your own child take their first steps. Life is more beautiful than you may see with your eyes, so learn to look with your heart.

Love always,

Your mother