To the Girl Going Through a Breakup,

I am you. I am in this with you. You are not alone. The crying and the pain and the wondering if you did the right thing. I am with you. You're worried and insecure. You're in pain and you think about it and it hits you like a ton of bricks. I am you. I sit in class and when my mind wanders, it wanders to him. It doesn't matter if your break up was mutual, or if you wanted it, or if he wanted it. It still hits you like a ton of bricks and you wonder if there was anything you could have done to save yourself from this heartache.

But, I am not here to dwell on the negative.

Instead, I am here to tell you that you are strong. You are important. You are beautiful. You are loved. You are valued so much more than you think you are. You are loved by so many, but most importantly, you are loved by your Creator. God knows exactly what you're going through. He knows your every thought and emotion. After all, he created them, and how well do you know the things you create? God loves you so much more than any boy ever could.

I am here to tell you to use this time to have fun. Go out with friends and make memories. Go to places you've never been, and FYI -- it's totally acceptable to go alone. Find yourself. Have some alone time. Read scripture and study. Talk to friends. Talk to your mom (Moms are particularly helpful in these situations) Find your calling. Pray. Give it all to God, and just let it go. (I'm still struggling with that part.) Instead of finding who you are based on your relationships with other people, find who you are in Jesus Christ. Your life will vastly improve, and when you're ready, He will lead you to the right person.

Don't think these feelings last forever, because they don't. It's hard, and you have the right to be sad for a little while, but don't let the sadness take over. Don't let sadness ruin what is probably one of the best times for self-discovery in your life. You are loved and treasured by the One who loves you the most, and that is what matters.

Love,

A Girl Going Through a Breakup