As we go through our everyday lives, people come and go and some major life-changing experiences take place. For anyone who's gone through something traumatic, or is currently dealing with something as such, I know how it feels. Sometimes this traumatic experience—whether it is a passing of a loved one, an illness, or a crime—can make the biggest impact on someone's life and they may not even realize it.
Because everyone is different, some traumatic experiences are hard for others to understand and no doubt extremely hard to move past. Sometimes during these rough times it can feel like someone is pushing down a hundred pound weight on your heart and lungs making it hard to breathe. You know what I have to say to that? It’s okay! Traumatic experiences aren’t meant to be easy whatsoever and aren’t meant to be dealt with the “perfect” way (whatever that word “perfect” means). Walking away from something so traumatic, although deeply saddening can be something so wonderful at the same time! If you have gone through something traumatic and need a little push to continue on just remember this:
1. You have a support system.
When you're dealing with something difficult you can feel alone and isolated from others because you feel trapped in your current depression. You need to remember that there is no way you are alone! You have a family and friends who no matter what will stick by your side through thick and thin (and I mean extremely thin). So, when you’re feeling alone and feeling like all the weight of the universe is on your shoulders, remember you can always relieve the pressure.
2. Things will get better, trust me.
Traumatic experiences can sometimes put you into a slump and life can feel kind of crummy and even pointless at the darkest of times. You may think to yourself that nothing will get better but you’re wrong! Yes, for the time being things aren’t going to feel great and it’ll be rough but it’s a hill that you got to be willing to climb over to get to the top, where things are much brighter! As the saying goes, “time heals all wounds.” Your experience may be hard but time is the best medicine, and things will, in fact, get better. You just need to say it out loud to yourself and believe it.
3. In fact, it does make you stronger.
Like my girl, Kelly Clarkson, once said, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” She is absolutely right! Sure, life is going to throw some seriously hard punches your way and you may catch a few of them. But it’s not the fact you got hit a few times, it's what you do with those hits. When life gets rough you have to be able to say to yourself that you are in fact a strong individual who can get through anything!
Take it from me, you have the absolute right to feel crummy and sad for whatever it is you are dealing with and do not let anyone take that right away from you. But please, remember that everybody is made with some of the toughest bones within themselves and you can get through anything. As long as you believe in yourself, you can do it.
