Since we were little, we have been told to never give up. My mom told me a story of how I was late on the whole walking game. When I was young, I loved crawling, lying down, and sitting so much that I refused to learn how to walk, but eventually my parents bought one of those wheely baby chairs that serves as a support system for lazy babies like me. It’s one of those weird baby contraptions, that allows the baby to stand in the middle and push of the ground and the wheely contraption will make the baby feel like he or she is walking. So the contraption planted the idea that walking is simply my stubby legs pushing off the ground in my tiny brain. Now just imagine a ball, I was so chubby that I looked like a ball, stumbling and rolling everywhere. Obviously, walking is not pushing yourself off the ground but placing one leg before the other, one step at a time. My parents thought I was never going to learn how to walk, but they never gave up on me, and they told me not to give up on myself. And now 18 years later, I am walking perfectly fine, even though I still prefer laying down and sitting (I mean somethings just never change).
I remember not being able to understand a math concept, and my parents and teacher told me to never give up. I remember not being able to get down dance routines, and I told myself not to give up. I remember feeling like the people that I once knew so well we're all changing on me, and I didn’t give up on them because I knew they were worth it. But as I grow older, I realize that it is okay to give up on certain people and situations in life. Most importantly, I think I didn’t give up because I didn’t think that was an option in life. Looking back, if I could, there are definitely people and things that I would have given up on because it wasn’t worth my time and effort.
For some reason, we always get trapped in the stage in life that makes us think that things we hold close to our hearts right now will mean the same to us in the future. So, we start putting in endless efforts to show how much we care and how much we want to maintain it. The endless efforts will soon be a downward spiral and drain us from reality. Reality is that there are things that happen in our lives that are meant to be purely a “in-the-moment” event. Nothing is meant to last forever, the world is constantly moving around you; so stop getting stuck in the moment and face the changes.
Don’t think of it as giving up, think of it more as letting go, we are simply letting things go so we can move on with our lives. The world is so big and there is just so much to explore. So, don’t dwell on one specific thing for too long, because while you are dwelling on something in the past, you are missing something in the present.
