Friendship is such an overly complicated subject. We've literally been making friends since before we could speak, and somehow we still haven't mastered the art of not being shitty friends.
There are so many ways a person could be classified as a terrible friend, and I could angry rant about all of them for ages- but this rant topic right here takes the cake for terrible friends.
We have all been the victim of a one sided friendship, at least once in our life- usually multiple times if we aren't so lucky. These are those friendships that make you feel like you're texting yourself, you don't know the last time you were featured on their Instagram, and you definitely wouldn't hang out if it were up to them to make plans. If somehow you have been lucky enough to avoid being struck by the one sided friendship bus, college is the most popular stop on its route- so get ready because it's a comin'.
I knew moving away for college would literally cut my friend count in half, but I wasn't too worried because there were always those certain people I was so sure were sticking around, they were in it for the long run. Well, I thought they would and i thought they were because they said they would and they said they were but of course, they didn't. Their time is oh so precious and somehow they never find a way to fit visiting you into their busy schedule. The worst is those ones who went out of their way to say they'd be there when you left, they were so set on coming to visit and hitting you up- but it never works out that way. They really do miss you, though, you hear it every time you run into them at a convenient time or when you reach out first, but you know they really do miss you.
When a relationship reaches the point of being one sided, it's even worse than if it were just to completely fizzle out. This weird middle ground leaves you constantly in a gray area of wondering when/if the friendship is going to really pick back up. It is literally the worst because usually these are the best friendships when they're actually active, these people are so fun and treat you like their best friend when they want to. I hate feeling like I can't just give the friendship up when they totally blow me off, time after time, just because being around them is great. One sided friendships are the perfect example of how little we think of our own self worth and how much we will let people put us through.
I don't want to be the person who waits around- I won't keep texting myself, and I won't keep begging for your attention- because that is not what a friendship is, and I am totally over it.
