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Why I'm Okay With Not Being Engaged

To everyone asking if my boyfriend and I will be getting engaged soon: Nope, we're stuck in "young love."

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Why I'm Okay With Not Being Engaged
Frededreia Willis

From my temple will fall a long white gown adorned with jewels. My hands will tightly hold a fresh bouquet and my feet will dance down the aisle as my heart leaps with love. This is the day -- the day I will say "I do."

Since the day I met Stefon, we've had a bond unbreakable and still love. Ya know "still" love -- he still does the silly things he did 513 days ago when he was trying to win my heart and I "still" blush and fix my hair when he's coming around. This is the love we have and, prayerfully, will always share. I'm not sure if it's because I am from the South and have been dating the same person for over a year, but everyone is singing the same tune, "Do you think he'll propose soon?"

As I come upon my senior year at Louisiana Tech, it seems as though all of my friends are either engaged or headed to the alter. I can't count how many times Stefon and I have been asked about that big step.

Before I dive deeper into our answer, let's clear up some "yes and no's." Yes: We have talked about marriage; we do want to marry each other and plan on being together long-term; I think being married and young is awesome; no, Not being engaged doesn't bother me; I don't think 21 is too young to be engaged; no, I don't believe the longer we wait, the more we will grow apart (don't know who came up with that one).

Since I was six years old, I've had my wedding planned and that's probably the only thing I have planned in my young life. I don't know what I will be eating for breakfast tomorrow, I don't know where I will be living or working after graduation, so I'm okay with not being engaged at this moment and if you're dealing with this, understand that too. It's okay, it really is, you don't have to be engaged right now. Let's learn to enjoy our young love phase.

I love my boyfriend and believe he will move mountains for me, but he's a junior (on a five-year plan) in college and a U.S. Airman and we are both figuring out major next steps -- career, financial stability, etc. Sure, I believe all of this can be done together and young, but we are two in love youngins with forever to go. Marriage is such a big deal to us and we believe it should be prayed over, prepared for and bathed in Jesus. We're enjoying dating and growing closer. We're both enjoying staying late over friend's houses, playing video games until midnight, riding in the buggy at Walmart, hanging out in ToysRUs, etc. We are enjoying our "young love" days, but if he proposed tomorrow, I'd say yes.

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