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It's Ok Not To Have Everything Figured Out Yet

You cannot control everything in your life.

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It's Ok Not To Have Everything Figured Out Yet
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For some odd reason, after you graduate high school, almost every single person in your life expects you to have some type of plan.

Are you going to work? Are you going to college? Are you going into the military?

If you don't have any of these questions answered or figured out, or even if you decide to take a year off, you get disapproving stares. You get disapproving head shakes as if they're absolutely disappointed in your decisions.

Let me go ahead and tell you: it's okay not to have everything figured out.

I'm only eighteen, so I know I'm not the prime example. Hell, anyone else would be a better example than I could ever be. I'm so confused with life, so overwhelmed by the thought of my future, that I can barely live in the present.

However, just know that everything works out.

My mother became pregnant with my brother after graduating high school, and for a few years, all she had was that diploma. With three children (and two step-children, I may add), she went out and got a certification in Phlebotomy while she worked three jobs.

My grandfather passed away whenever my father was nineteen years old. My father wanted to go into the military, but he stayed at home to support his family. After working construction and driving an eight-wheeler for years, he's finally established his own company with my step-brother.

Everything may not make sense right now. Everything may seem like a blur, and you're so desperately clinging for that sense of control.

You cannot always be in control of your life.

So many factors of the world and so many accidents can change our lives forever. I could change my major from biology to art for some reason (although I am a terrible artist, it could happen). I could decide that I don't want to live in Georgia and suddenly move to Canada.

Your life is going to continue on as it wants. Life does not cater to your needs.

You will be happy. You will be sad. You will feel worthless. You will feel selfish. You cannot control every single thing that ever happens

.Live your life as it is right now. If you don't have anything figured out, if you're in a small little bubble with no way of popping the surrounding goop, it's perfectly fine.

You will get through this. You will figure out what you're going to do, the meaning of your life, what you're here for.

So take life by the saddle, and give it hell. You only live once.

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