Most women don't find out they're pregnant until after they are six weeks along.
But let's do a little experiment and say you find out that you're pregnant at five weeks.
As for your situation, you can choose any of the following:
- Your extremely conservative parents will disown you
- Your abusive partner will hurt you
- You are homeless
- You suffer from a physical chronic illness
- You suffer from serious mental illness
- You are on drugs
- You were raped
- You're in high school and terrified of what kids will say
- You've never wanted to be a mother
You just found out you are five weeks pregnant. You are young or terrified or sick or homeless or all of the above.
And now you have one week to make a decision that will change your life, and at least one other life, forever.
But wait, there's more. Under current Ohio law, before receiving an abortion, you must attend a counseling session and then wait 24 hours before you can make your appointment.
So even if you get lucky and are able to get into a counseling appointment the day after finding out you're pregnant (which is likely extremely difficult), you're down to six days to make this decision, provided you can go on a weekend. (Oh, and those parents who you're terrified of telling or have no relationship with? One of them needs to sign a consent form. )
Think about this. Really, truly think about this.
Your parents have told you not to have sex, and they'll disown you if you get pregnant. Without them, you'll have no support. You have less than a week to make a decision.
Your boyfriend told you that you'd better be taking your birth control, and he's beat you up for less serious things. You have less than a week to make a decision.
You are living on the streets and don't have enough money to feed yourself, let alone pay for necessary prenatal care, let alone pay for a child. You have less than a week to make a decision.
You live your entire life in chronic pain, pain that you have a hard time dealing with without carrying a child around inside of you… A pain you can't even fathom. You have less than a week to make a decision.
You have dealt with anxiety and depression your entire life. You don't want to pass it on to your child, and you certainly feel like you can't deal with the trauma of an adoption. You have less than a week to make a decision.
You fell into a bad crowd and are dealing with an addiction. It would be unsafe to bring a child into the world while these drugs are freely flowing through your system. You have less than a week to make a decision.
You dealt with the absolute trauma of being sexually assaulted. You aren't sure what it will do to you if you have a constant reminder of this horrific memory for the next nine months and beyond. You have less than a week to make a decision.
You're a minor. You're a child. What other people think of you means everything to you right now. You're picturing yourself missing your opening basketball game, or senior prom because you are pregnant. You're picturing what everyone will think. You have less than a week to make a decision.
You have a big, beautiful happy life that never included children. You don't want to reroute your life. You don't want everyone saying "finally" or "I knew you'd come around" as you carry a child you aren't keeping for yourself. You have less than a week to make a decision.
This is not enough time to make a decision. This is not enough time to consider your options.
Your parents might have come around, but it took longer than the time you had. You had to make a decision.
You may have found a women's shelter, but not until after your options were stripped. You had to make a decision.
You may have found an amazing family who was willing to adopt your child and pay for the necessities, but it took too long. You had to make a decision.
You may have found a doctor who specializes in pregnancy with chronic pain, but appointments were booked weeks out. You had to make a decision.
Your therapist may have given you resources to make it through a pregnancy with mental health issues, but your appointment wasn't until next week. You had to make a decision.
You may have been ready to go to rehab and turn your life around, but it takes longer than a few days. You had to make a decision.
You may have come to the conclusion that you want something beautiful to come out of your horrific assault, but it took a bit more time than you had. You had to make a decision.
Your parents and friends may have helped you get through the terror of being a pregnant high schooler, but it took you too long to work up the courage to tell them. You had to make a decision.
You may have made the decision that your future could be changed to include the children you never wanted, but coming around took way too long. You had to make a decision.
Giving people, young, poor, sick or otherwise terrified people, less than a week to make a decision that will affect every aspect of their life is NOT enough time. You get longer to accept a job offer.
And what happens when you take that week away? What happens when you're in one of those situations and you find out eight weeks along and an abortion is completely off of the table? You panic. And you make a rash, dangerous choice.
This bill is helping no one. It is rushing a very, very terrifying, sad and personal decision. And you can tell her she "shouldn't have been having sex if she couldn't handle a baby" all you want, but we are well past that.
So are you pro-life, even if bringing that life into the world damages the mother and you stop caring about what happens to the baby as soon as it's born?
Or are you just pro-control?