"We don't do the same drugs no more." - Chance The Rapper
Life is a journey: a journey that may push you to the deep ends of your emotions. Along this journey, you're going to encounter people. Different people in your life stay for various lengths of time. Some may only be in your life for a few months, or some may be in your life until the day you die. These variating lengths of time may be different from others due to personal situations, their relation to you, and their personal feelings about you or their relation to you. Whatever the reason, some people are going to leave your life for some reason that may be wildly unknown to you.
Thinking about this can hurt a lot, which is understandable. People that you grow very close to just walk away. And you try so hard to save your relationship with them. You attempt to repair and fix everything that you built for them, but it's not enough. Sometimes you really try to glue together a glass vase, but the pieces are too broken to mend together again. Sometimes you just have to clean up the mess and move on.
But you know what?
That's okay.
In life, we lose many people along the way. We get busy, we lose touch, we outgrow one another. That's just how life is. We have to appreciate the people that we do have in our life, and if they leave, we have to trust that they are happy without you in their life. This can be a very difficult concept to tackle within our lives, especially when coping with losses of those we love and trust the most.
So how do we cope with the losses?
“The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the best-version of ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them help to make them great. We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the best version of ourselves.” - Matthew Kelly
The most important thing to do in these situations is to try to understand where the other person is. You, yourself, have the ability to leave someone's world and they have the ability to leave yours at any moment in time. In fact, everyone has this right. Everyone has the right to leave someone that makes them miserable or unhappy. Because everyone deserves to be happy, and no one deserves to surround themselves that make them absolutely miserable. Not everyone in your life is a loss. We all have a long life to live, and everyone has the right to make most of it a happy one.
So the next time someone leaves your world, you may be so sad that you feel like you have lost everything. But, think about the good times you had with them, and wish them some more good times. Remember the people you still have in your life that care about you and love you very much. When you fall in the dirt, get back up and brush off your knees. Life moves too fast to be sad.
