My mother always told me that a confident woman would go far in life, that a confident woman would break barriers and turn heads. I was raised to be confident.
I don’t mind doing things on my own, I prefer it that way sometimes. I don’t always need someone by my side, directing me, telling me how things should be done. I was raised to be independent.
I work my tail off to excel in everything that I do. I give everything that I do all of my heart and soul in order to succeed. I don’t do this to be a show off, I do this to be the best person I can be. I was raised to be a hard worker.
My intelligence is something I work hard for, something I pay dearly to gain. My intelligence is something I am thankful for every day of my life. The fact that I even have a chance to grow my intelligence is something that woman in the past and even to this day have fought, and are fighting for. Having the chance to use this intelligence is something that woman have fought, and are still fighting for. I was raised to be intelligent, I was raised to learn and grow.
I was raised to be confident, independent, hardworking, and intelligent. I was raised to be a strong woman, to grow and be my own person. I was not raised to be intimidating. I was not raised to scare you. I was not raised so you could judge me.
In today’s society, there are so many double standards for woman that its literally the most disgusting thing on this planet. You want woman to be wives and mothers, to wear dresses and cook dinner, but at the same time you want woman to bring home a sufficient income, dress to avoid getting raped, and ‘take it like a man.’ Society tells woman to be strong, to be independent, and to value their education, yet when a woman has all of these qualities, she is intimidating.
I’m tired of being told that I’m intimidating. I am tired of people telling me that I am scary because of the qualities I poses. Truth of the matter is, I love who I am. I love the fact that I can travel alone and not feel awkward. I love the fact that I can hold an intelligent conversation with people and actually keep up. I love the fact that I have a giant pimple on my face and still feel somewhat beautiful, that I can stand in front of company CEO’s to give presentations and not want to crap myself. I love the fact that my hard work has gotten me into a great college that is opening so many other doors for me.
Stop telling me that I’m intimidating and scary because even though I am able to do these things, I am also loving, and caring, and could have about 3 trillion puppies pee all over the floor and not get mad. I can give away hugs like no one’s business, and if you ever need a quiche, I got you fam. I have fears, and downfalls just like everyone else. I am more than intimidating and scary, so stop seeing me that way.
