Throughout your life, you are going to meet so many new people. Not all of the people you meet are going to like you. We want everyone to like us, but we shouldn't. I know it is easier said than done, but believe me, you will feel so much better if you stop begging people to like you. That has been a very hard pill for me to swallow. For all my life pretty much, I have always been concerned about whether or not my presence was enjoyed or appreciated by those around me. I have a really bad habit of trying to please everyone around me. Having the approval of others has always been a priority for me. When I meet someone, I try my very best to give a great first impression. I tend to care way too much about what others think of me. One thing I have had to learn is that when I invest myself too much into what others think of me, it messes with me mentally, and it causes me to overthink to the point of over stressing myself out.
I have always had a big issue with self-doubt. When it comes to having self-confidence, I can never find any in myself. It is a big problem. I act in a way to eliminate all the negative disapproval comments around me, and it is really sad when I think about it. When this happens, I eliminate all of the endless opportunities, lifestyles, and directions around me. I have so many goals and aspirations that I have always kept to myself, all because I was afraid of getting judged or laughed at. I tend to always worry my self to death about what other's opinions are of me. That is not the way to live. I am having to realize that I am sacrificing myself and my dreams to try and impress others around me, whose opinions should not matter. I need to learn that the only opinions I should care about are those of my own.
Caring too much about the way others look at us or think of us messes with our ability to try new things and take risks. What I have learned to do is embrace those who judge me, speak ill of me, or criticize me. Why waste time begging for people to love you when you can spend that time loving yourself.
Not being liked by every person who crosses your path does not mean you are unlikeable by any means. It does not mean you are anything less than great. Be true to yourself. Get more comfortable with yourself and your feelings. Stop judging yourself based off of what others say about you. Learn to say "not everyone is going to like me, and that is fine with me". You will feel so good once you start telling yourself that. It sure has made me look at life with a whole new perspective.
"Everyone is going to have an opinion on you; not everyone is going to like you. You can't live your life based on other people's opinions of you or let that change what you do or how you feel about yourself, because then you are not living" - Rumer Willis
