I'm not ashamed, he's my boyfriend and my best friend.
Some say the best person to talk to about anything is your boyfriend because it goes in one ear and out the other... but I beg to differ when it comes to my boyfriend. Yes, sometimes I am sure he gets annoyed listening to me rant about my day but he truly listens. He gives input and puts his opinion on things when I ask for it. He's the first one I call when there is good news from that day. He's my rock when I am having a bad day.
I'm not ashamed that my boyfriend is my best friend. Sometimes he goes to the mall with me or runs errands. He does not ever judge me for something stupid that I have done. He doesn't mind doing girly stuff with me.
The real question is: Why shouldn't your boyfriend be your best friend? You are in a relationship with them, shouldn't they know everything about you? Or at least want to know about you? Don't you want them there for you?
Shouldn't your boyfriend want to be your best friend? Shouldn't he strive to learn more about you? Know what your favorite ice cream flavor is on your bad day and what your favorite restaurant is so on your good day you can celebrate? Shouldn't he listen to what you have to say because I am sure he has gone on rants himself.
A best friend should be there for you, be able to lean on them through the bad days, and celebrate the good ones. They should want to better you, make you the best version of yourself. They should not want to drag you down when they should be lifting you up. Best friends are the ones you can count on when you know you need someone there for you.
Not all people are lucky enough to have their boyfriend as their best friend, and if they are not your best friend, maybe looking at your relationship might be needed. A successful relationship consists of open communication with one another. If you are not communicating with one another, the relationship has failed most likely.
Take time to learn about your boyfriend and be there for him. There will be a time you will need him as well. Treat him like your best friend and doors will open in the relationship. Open yourself up to him.
If you had told me a year and a half ago that my boyfriend would be my best friend, I probably would have laughed in your face. But now, I would laugh if you asked if he wasn't my best friend. He's my go to person for everything. That is why our relationship is never dull. He's Derek to my Meredith Grey. I probably could not make it through this life without him.
