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Nobody Cares Until You Push Back

Everybody makes you out to be the villain when you stand up for yourself.

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Nobody Cares Until You Push Back

Recently, I've seen a few people post things about how they're tired of being walked on and pushed around. I feel bad for them. I really do. I've been there plenty of times, hell I've been in that position my whole life.While I admit that there is a petty part of me that feels no sympathy towards because of the way they treated me (karma's a bitch), I still feel for them.

It's hard not to hate. People, groups, and institutions. It feels like they're all out to get you. They just won't let up, just bombarding you, one thing after another. You suck it up, because that's what everyone tells you to do. "Just be the bigger person. Just apologize." I hate that shit. Why do I have to apologize to someone I trusted or to someone I barely know and have no real problem with. But we all do it. We all suck it up and say were sorry and then we feel like idiots, only for it to happen again. You ignore it, it happens again, ignore it, it happens again, then you finally had enough and decide to push back.

Then everybody has something to say. Then you're the bad guy. It's bullshit and just plain unfair. The worst part is you actually believe them. You feel like the whole thing is your fault and you need to beg everyone for forgiveness.

I've been there. I've pushed back on people I called my friend and even people that I'm family with. For years and years I've felt like it was all my fault. There's something wrong with me. I would always tell myself that, but now I'm older, wiser, and more stable in my life. I was too dependent on other people and there opinions of me. That's the problem with people who say there tired of being a punching bag. Take accountability for your part and realize that you don't need them or my opinion.

Just walk away from them and keep your head on your shoulders.At that same time don't hide. I've made that mistake too many times. Just staying away from them, which lets them go around make them look like the victim. Don't hide and don't be ashamed, even if your alone. I might not have a lot of friends, but those that do know me, know that I'm not like what some people label me as. So my advice is; don't be afraid to push back, in fact just push back once, because that's all you need. One time to prove yourself and then just walk away. You know what your worth and if they do too and want you back, they'll be back.

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