We've all seen the memes and jokes about how women are quick to jump and say they have a boyfriend so they can get out of simply telling a guy at the mall, on the street or in a bar that they just don't want to go out with them or give them their number. I personally have used the boyfriend card, the "I don't have a phone card" or the "I'm about to go on vacation for two months card" to get out of a date or possible date with some guy I just wasn't interested in.
This is something I honestly do feel bad about, first off because I'm lying to a potentially perfectly nice person, but mostly I'm cheating myself the opportunity to be the strong and resilient woman I am. Now I don't want to come off as someone who just is disgusted by men's attention or someone who is so vain to just lie to all the guys I don't think are cute because it's honestly not that. In most cases, I'm busy with friends or family or I'm alone and simply have things to do, but that's beside the point, women should not have to explain themselves to every man they turn down.
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I can't tell you how many times I have said "no" or given the heartfelt reason why it won't work between someone and I and been returned by hostility, being made to feel bad for my decisions or my personal favorite when a guy asks every girl's favorite question "what are you on your period or something?"
I'm not saying all women are always right in the way they reject men, or should use the boyfriend card as often as they should but I do honestly believe that it is easier to just say you're taken than to have to explain to a random stranger why I don't like them. But it is getting out of hand we have to admit, because maybe I'm having a bad day, or I am on my period or maybe I just don't like you the way you want me to, but that in no way shape or form makes it okay for a man to get upset, make me feel bad, or ask me insulting questions about my personal health.
I know women can be just as sassy, rude and ruthless when it comes to rejecting guys, I've also been on the giving end of some not so nice comments, so really I want this message to be for everyone. Because no should be enough, not liking someone shouldn't warrant a ridiculous reaction, hatred or anything of that nature. Because no one is required to like you, love you or even put up with you, but they should respect your decisions.
So if you get rejected accept it and move on because someone out there \is for you and maybe it's just not that person, and to those doing the rejecting, a simple no is enough, we know you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, we know your mom isn't suddenly in the hospital and we know you speak English so don't be afraid to just say no.
Let's make no enough.
