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To My Friends That Miss 'The Single Me'

I am sorry that I'm no longer your single friend, but I am not sorry for dating my boyfriend.

Sofia Leon

Mar 20, 2017

University of Florida

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To my friends that miss "the single me"

I'm sorry.

I am sorry that I'm no longer your single friend, but I am not sorry for dating my boyfriend.

I'm sorry I have a new best friend, but that doesn't mean I love you any less.

I know we have less wine nights now. I know you feel ignored. You've called me distant and you've called me selfish, and maybe you're not wrong. I'm sorry that I have less free time now. I'm available less and “I'll have to call you back” more. As I learn how to share my life with someone new, I'm going to need you to be patient with me. I'm not good at this yet. Do remember, I was your single friend. It may be hard at first, I know it was for me, but we're going through this together and I promise to not leave you behind.

Some things are going to change now that I'm not your single friend. He's my Valentine's date from now on. Galentine's day will have to be a day late for us. I'm sorry, but at 12:00 am on New Year's, I'll be kissing him. At 12:01 am I'll go back to paying attention to you. When we bake things together I will save him a few, and yes they will be the cookies that I think look the prettiest. You can roll your eyes at me as I do it, but it won't stop me.

On his birthday, I’m going to need your help. I won't know what to do to celebrate and I'll probably ask you if my present for him is lame at least twice, because you are still my best friend and I want your opinion. Once in a while I'm going to want us all to hang out, and no it's not because I want you to third wheel. I love you both now, and I want us to all be friends. We can still have our coffee dates, and I promise to ask about you, and not talk about him. You can still call me at 3 am crying when life is unfair. I'll still bring you coffee to the library.

Please, don't stop needing me, because I'll always need you. Don't stop asking me to come out. Don't stop sending me funny links about how difficult boys can be and why they don't make sense. I'm not single anymore but I am still me and I'll always be your friend. As I learn to balance both you and him I need you to be kind to me. I need you to be forgiving and let me learn. I promise I'll figure this out, and I know you'll be there for me as I do.

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1. When he just wanted bacon from his George Foreman grill

2. When he had money (and Jan) issues

3. When he got upstaged at Phyllis' wedding

4. When he unintentionally saved Meredith from rabies

5. When he wore a "bisexual" suit

6. When he had to apologize to Jesus

7. When his GPS drove him into a lake

8. When he had to deal with Ryan as his boss

9. When he couldn't fulfill his most generous empty promise

10. When this happened

11. When he struggled with a X-Mas break up

12. When he had to defend his generosity

13. When he threw a classy Christmas party for Holly but she had a boyfriend

14. When he had to stand up to peer pressure

15. When Toby was "Toby-ish"

This isn't just for the single Pringles out there either, folks

Run Around Clanging Pots and Pans in Everyone's Face

Eat the Last Few Pigs in a Blanket

Pop Twelve White Grapes

Burn Something

Smash Things Against a Wall

Spontaneously Begin an Irish Jig

Call Your Mother

Throw a Coffee Table Out a Window

Sing "Auld Lang Syne" at the Top of Your Lungs

Do Some Squats

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Time to be merry and bright.

"First Noel" by Leslie Odom, Jr

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"Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas" by Kelly Clarkson

"All I Want for Christmas Is You" by Mariah Carey

"Christmas (Baby Please Come Home" by Michael Buble

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"The Christmas Song" by Josh Groban

"White Christmas" by Idina Menzel

"O Holy Night" by David Archuleta

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"Les cloches du hameau" by Celine Dion

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