I'll never understand what's so enticing about sleeping with someone who isn't stoked to be having sex with you. Like literally where is the appeal? All of my favorite sexual experiences have involved stellar communication and checking in to make sure we were both into EVERYTHING that was happening. Anything less than this is absolutely unacceptable.
Consent is f*cking MANDATORY!
An important note is that consent is an enthusiastic 'YES!' A lack of a no is notconsenting because it's possible to be in a situation where you feel sexually coerced and you don't feel comfortable saying no, such as the recent Aziz Ansari situation.
Just within this term (which has only been two weeks, mind you), I've already turned down a couple men who became REALLY persistent after I said no the first time. The most annoying part about this kind of situation for me is how objectified and not respected it makes me feel.
Like I deserve the ability to go to parties without the fear of having men ignore my 'no.' Sometimes my 'no' is actually respected which always makes me happy since it's basic human decency to respect someone's answer to a sexual invitation.
The majority of the time, my 'no' isn't respected at all and the men will continue to approach me every ten minutes and grab me by my hips and try the whole routine all over again. Like do you REALLY think I'm going to say yes to f*cking you just because you've asked me ten times? Because I'm not. If anything, your persistence in trying to get me to sleep with you absolutely disgusts me and it informs me that you're definitely not going to respect my 'no' in the bedroom any more than you're respecting my 'no' now.
As soon as someone starts trying to convince me to have sex with them after I've already said no, I'm OUT.
