Over the years the first word that people used to describe me when I first met them was "nice." Even if I've known someone for awhile, it's still the first word that comes to mind about me. It's not that "nice" is a bad word or that I'm necessarily unhappy with people referring to me as such all the time... It's just that it has no personality to it.
Think about it like this: Would you rather be "nice" or "free-spirited", "nice" or "strong", "nice" or "hilarious", "nice" or "intelligent", "nice" or "confident"?
In my experience, it's just something to call someone when you can't think of something better. The point is, there are so many unique words out there and no one ever seems to apply those to me. Why should I, or anyone really, settle for "nice" when there are thousands of more descriptive words in this world?
Countless times I've heard people say, "You're like the nicest person I've ever met, but..." There just always seems to be a "but" because that "niceness" just isn't good enough for people. As if being just "nice" doesn't make people like you any more, you have to be more than that.
We all are more than that, so why can't people see it? All I've ever done is try to be "nice" to everyone, but honestly, sometimes it feels like it hasn't gotten me anywhere.
People tell me that I deserve better than the unhappy and unsatisfied life I'm living every day. Yet, people still tell me that they don't like me.
Sometimes I just want to know what I'm doing wrong, or what I can do better. Would I stand out to people more if I was more fearless, or funny, or edgy, or different than I am right now? Why is there no other word people can describe me as?
Since people can't seem to tell me why things haven't worked in my favor, I feel like I have to change and not be known as the "nice one" anymore. But if I did that, would I even be ME anymore?
All I've done is go out of my way for the people I love and I figure that's the "nice" thing to do. However it's more than just "nice", it's also the right thing, the honorable thing, and the sincere thing to do.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, "nice" just doesn't seem like it's enough anymore. I'd like to be known as someone with more detailed qualities than that.
"Nice" is only just one place ahead of "okay", it's only one step above "good", just barely ahead of "tolerable".
Why can't I be more than that?
In fact, EVERYONE deserves to be more than that.
So, next time you find yourself doubting how great you are, like I constantly do, just remember that "nice" can become something so much more.
"Nice" can grow into "winsome", "brilliant", "benevolent", "eccentric", or "valorous".
"Nice" can be so much more than just "nice".
Sometimes, you just have to take some extra time to show people that you've got so much more inside than just "nice". And when you do, it'll be "powerful", "captivating" and some may even say... "Beautiful".
