To the "nice girl who finishes last," I have some news for you.
We live in a world that accepts women who "[throw] themselves at any and every guy in sight" because it's okay to do that. It's perfectly okay to have one night stands, to ghost people, to pretend you didn't just sleep with them last night. It's okay to flaunt your tits on Instagram, whether or not it's done for likes or male attention.
Human behavior had no right or wrong. Being promiscuous and sexually explorative is totally fine regardless of what your sense of modesty and morality are.
Oh, and fucking people, whether it's for one night or for years, it does nothing to diminish one's dignity or character.
A woman can be sexual and be a wonderful, generous person. A girl who stays on the sidelines can turn out to be a shady, manipulative bitch.
"...society doesn't like nice girls."
Um, since when? If you're categorizing "not nice" girls as the ones who sleep around, play mind games, and show off their titties, then society hates them. They're labeled as sluts, whores, and easy. They're looked down upon as being dirty and selfish.
They're looked at as lesser beings because they give into their baser desires.
So don't try and say that nice girls have it so bad when really they're treated as fucking angels. They're pure and kind-hearted.
"We're the ones who will love with our whole hearts and never hurt someone because we know what it's like to get hurt.
I don't know about you, but I'm okay with that because I'd rather be the girl someone wants to marry than the girl that someone wants to sleep with on a Saturday night."
I really was unaware that having sex prevented me from being marriage material. That my sexy pictures on Instagram make me unable to love with my whole heart. That not being into relationships means that I don't know what it's like to be hurt.
Us "sluts" that you get mad at your guy friends for fooling around with? We have hearts, too. We have emotions, goals, even dignity, and character. Some of us want to be married someday — and we will be.
Because we are just as valuable and as human as "nice girls." But we put up with a lot more shit than they do.
Sure, I agree, women who play mind games and manipulate their partner are horrid. But that's not what you're talking about, is it? You put so much focus on the girls that sleep around and show off their body that it's clear what's eating away at your mind.
You don't like sleeping around? Then don't. Men pass you by for a girl that flaunts her body? He's obviously not the man for you. However, that doesn't give you the excuse to say that people who do those things are wrong, or that they're the reason for your failures.
The next time you want to shame a group of women, do so with confidence. Don't use your poor self-esteem as an excuse to say, "this is why I finish last." Maybe you finish last because of who you are, not because of how society views you — because fuck societal views.
