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When Your Ex Has A New Girlfriend

Why you shouldn't diss her.

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When Your Ex Has A New Girlfriend
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I've seen it crawling all over social media. I've listened to the comments made by females discussing what they've discovered while researching, *cough, cough* stalking, their ex-boyfriends new girlfriend on Facebook and IG. I see them dissing their ex's new flame, brutally ripping her apart piece by piece and I can't help but wonder if this is really still a thing? I mean, you say you're over your ex-boyfriend and that you could care less about what he does, yet you are still concerned enough to let everyone know, including him, that he downgraded.

Listen, I understand that when serious relationships fail, there is going to be pain. You can flaunt your lies all day long, but the fact of the matter is, you are hurt. And for good reason! So absolutely allow yourself to grieve, but don't cause someone else pain because of it. That new girl that he's dating, the one you called a tramp, she has a name. She has a family and she has feelings just like the rest of this human race and who are you to cause her pain just because she is with your ex-boyfriend?

When we call someone a derogatory name like ugly or fat, it is actually just a direct representation as to how we feel about ourself. So when you poke fun at that girl saying she is less attractive than you because of the way her nose is shaped, you're subconsciously trying to validate your worth by making yourself feel better.

You do recognize that when you move into another relationship, somewhere, to someone, you are that girl. Does it make you any less attractive because you are with someone else's ex? Does that make you harlot? I didn't think so.

Now, while I don't know what your former boyfriend did to you, I do know one thing, I'm not perfect. I have hurt people who didn't deserve to be hurt because of my own immaturity, so I can extend grace to someone who has done the same thing to me.

Ladies, we preach about the importance of loving ourself and embracing who we are yet, when we feel threatened by another female, we throw that out of the window and result back to childish name calling. You should be thankful that you're no longer in a relationship that wasn't right for you in the first place and that maybe someone else has found their "person" in your ex.

All I'm saying is that just because your relationship with him didn't work out, it doesn't mean that she doesn't deserve him and it doesn't mean that she is any less of a human being than you are. Don't try to destroy their relationship, instead embrace the fact that you are beautiful, you have a purpose and so does she. You will find happiness once you start loving who God has created you to be instead of worrying with things of your past.

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